Recently I came across a very interesting article by
Brad Leibowitz on relationship infidelity.
"When left to our own measures, men the world over can find themselves in a world of debauchery. For those who are hitched, when it comes to infidelity, what actually constitutes going too far? Where do you draw the line in the sand?"
It's a good question.
My answer to this would probably be different from yours, simply because we are all different individuals. We each have different expectations from our partners when in a relationship. But one thing remains constant ... and that is the promise of being monogamous to each other.
Brad also mentions in his article that "it's obvious that men are characterized as the sex that cheats the most," and that "women set the guidelines for what cheating truly is".
Women set rules, and men break them.
For the most part, I do agree. Women set most of the "rules" in a relationship. It's because we are more vocal in our expectations from our partners when in a relationship and we just expect our men to "get in line".
However, in all fairness, half of our so called "rules" are just an accident waiting to be broken. I have a girlfriend, who to this day still has not realized that "talking to another girl" and "not answering his phone, where must he be" does not constitute cheating. So, she gets the girls out to party, "meet men" and has totally convinced herself that he's already out there breaking their bond of trust with another woman.
We all have to understand that basic rule of cause and effect. There has to be a cause in order to get the effect. Maybe, we try to concentrate too much on the result rather than what instigated the result. In my girlfriend's case, she's deemed her partner guilty before he's even cheated on her.
Ladies, after a man's been convicted and tried without any justified reason, where do you think the next step in your relationship will lead?
