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Infidelity Help For a Cheating Spouse
Whether you call it cheating, unfaithfulness, adultery, an affair, or marital infidelity, it causes devastating pain and major crises in marriages. Surprisingly, half of marriages survive infidelity and some even get better. Infidelity spurs 50% of couples who experience it to reassess their marriages and make changes, often with the help of counselors. About 15% of wives and 25% of husbands admit to cheating, while over 60% of relationships may have a cheating spouse during the course of a marriage. Causes of Infidelity The causes of infidelity are numerous and can be simple or complicated. Affairs occur in both happy and unhappy marriages. Usually, both spouses are responsible for the situation. The causes of infidelity include: a mid-life or pre-midlife crisis, low self-esteem, lack of love and attention given to a spouse, anger, boredom, marrying too young, peer pressure, the existence of an opportunity, disappointment in the marriage, sex addiction, as a way to leave the marriage, and even family expectations! Types of Affairs Sometimes adultery is due to an addiction to sex or romance. A new relationship provides passion, excitement, danger, sexual highs, romance, and either greater self-esteem or shame. Some affairs are due to men who believe that extramarital relationships are something they are entitled to by gender. There is little or no guilt felt by these husbands and their birth families sometimes condone their behavior. There may be peer pressure as well. Other unfaithful spouses are driven by mid-life crisis (i.e.; fear of aging), anger toward the spouse for real or imagined wrongs, boredom, or disappointment in the marriage or the problems of living. These affairs often happen only if an opportunity presents itself. The newest type of infidelity is one in which the participants weren't searching for an affair, but got involved in a friendship at work or on the Internet that turned into an affair. This type of relationship includes emotional intimacy, secrecy and lying, and sexual feelings and actions. There may be peer (societal) pressure to participate in this type of affair as well. The most serious type of affair is the one in which a married partner falls in love with someone outside the marriage, either unwittingly or as an excuse for leaving. This type of infidelity causes the most destruction of marriages. Consequences of Infidelity The consequences of infidelity include: divorce, depression, loss of trust, persistent anxiety, and an overwhelming feeling of loss. Many innocent spouses experience symptoms similar to post-traumatic stress disorder. Consequences of infidelity may also encompass obsessive thoughts about the details of the infidelity, suspiciously watching for indications of infidelity, "fight or flight" symptoms, anger and accusations, and flashbacks. Results of Infidelity After infidelity occurs, the partners must decide whether to save the marriage or separate and divorce. Each spouse may want a different outcome. Counselors and psychologists will work with couples to assist them in making a decision and implementing it. Negative emotions and symptoms must be addressed and a "safety zone" established. An atmosphere of honesty must be established with the spouse, while all contact with the partner in the affair must be stopped. The story of the affair must be told and its impact on the marriage addressed. Planning for the future of the marriage leads to healing, and, hopefully, forgiveness. Failing that, a divorce will take place. If a marriage survives infidelity, it will become stronger and centered on the couple, not just on children; the dangers and temptations of infidelity are understood and addressed in order to avoid it; and the couple develops trust, renewed commitment, and shared responsibility for the ongoing success of the marriage. About the Author Edward Talurdey is a leading infidelity expert who has been featured on numerous popular radio programs. If you suspect infidelity in your relationship, you can discover the secrets over 25,768 other people have used to quickly find the truth at http://www.catchacheat.com
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Is There a Seven Year Itch?
When it comes to relationships there is a common concept that there comes a point in terms of time when both individuals start to wonder what they are doing in the relationship. This is a difficult time for both of the people as individually, and especially for the two of them as a couple; fights break out incessantly and the temptation to cheat becomes a major player. This period of the relationship is commonly known in relationship-lore as the seven-year itch. This is in fact a real phenomenon, although it affects every person and every couple differently and to different extents. Also, the "seven-year" designation isn't terribly scientific, but it's on-the-mark more often than you might expect. Another factor that will be specific to the couple involved is the time period. In fact, five years is probably a little more accurate, with the "itch" occurring most commonly between the fifth and seventh year of a given relationship -- sometimes lasting the two years in between. Why is there an itch in the first place? The itch may occur for a few different reasons. The first reason would simply be our biological makeup as Homo-Sapiens. We are naturally given to change, and so long times spent in one particular situation will make us curious as to how things could be different. Also, and despite our best efforts, we're still subject to the instincts and urges all animals experience, though we have the means to combat those urges with our brain-power. A high comfort level within the relationship can, believe it or not, also contribute to the itch's occurance. Comfort can sometimes lead to a feeling of the mundane; what used to be exciting has now become predictable. Throw into the mix the fact that most couples have experienced some major shifts in their lives in the first five years of a relationship (career beginnings, promotions, the purchase of a home, the arrival of one or more babies) and you can see how the focus may be shifted away from maintaining the relationship. Overcoming the itch This is a difficult time for any couple, because there are always thoughts about what could have been. Both parties are going to under a lot of stress. The most important strategy in overcoming the itch is to communicate as a couple. Don't shut down, and don't stop sharing due to fear of a fight. A lot of couples will find that counseling is useful at this point in their relationship. If you do go for counseling, be ready to accept that it is a process. Most counselors are not able to find a magic solution right away, and the sessions can be difficult for both individuals. Try not to let what is said in front of the counselor spill over after the session. A lot of couples will find that they are united through their interaction with the counselor; smiling a lot and reflecting on past good times can help to overcome the feelings of alienation from each other that the itch brings on. Going through a rough patch in a relationship is typical. In fact, it is so common that the worst spots have actually been labeled. If you are committed to your relationship, it is important to talk through the period known as the seven year itch and be prepared to hang in as long as it takes. About the Author Alex Daniels consults for an online gift shop offering groomsmen "gifts for him" as well as unique wedding favors. Alex is recently married.
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Women in Love and Relationships - How to Let Go
When you love someone and the relationship has to end in any reason that hurt you both, it has to end right at that moment and you have to accept it and let go. You don't have to ask questions why it happened; you don't have to look for answers because you will see none. Things could get ugly if you insist looking for it. Don't try to change the course of fate, if it's meant to end then it has to end and let go. Respect whatever he thinks about you, no need to talk or settle things with him, it only makes you so cheap and get hurt more. Parting ways is painful but you have to take it. Don't try to end it well if there's no future to end it well. Just take the situation as it is and let go. You cannot patch the holes and loopholes that happened to both of you. There will always be grudges, blaming and comparison with each other. It's the way it is; its how letting go is. There could never be a nicer way to do it, but to let go and accept it. If you are a person who wants to end everything in a nice way, this is not the time, only time could tell if all wounds have healed, things will fall in their right places at the right time. As the old adage goes "Time will heal all wounds" as old as it is, it is still true even to this time. Another thing about ending a relationship, there should be no regrets for what has happened, accept it and try to let go and free your self. No matter what you did even if it brought you pains, there should be no regrets because after all you have loved the person. Be glad if you were given a chance to say it and be able to free your self. Yes, letting go is painful but it gives a sense of freedom, knowing you've said it "no regrets" and you've been true to yourself regardless of what happened and what he feels for you. He may have regrets and hate you but you have to respect that, it is his right. When it comes to relationships, it doesn't matter who is right or who is wrong. Yes, you will go through the process of fighting for your rights because you think you are right but at the end it really doesn't matter. Relationship lasts because it's meant to last, it will end if it's not meant to last and you have to let go. Don't do stupid things, you cannot win him back. You cannot get his sympathy. If he doesn't feel for you, no matter how hard you try he will not care. Don't compromise who you really are regardless of the situation and the pain you are into. Sometimes pain can push you to do something which is not within your values, try hard to keep your sanity and learn to let go. Nothing good will come out of it that's why its' called stupid. Yes, he hurt you in every possible situation, but it's not enough reason to trade for who you really are. You have to get a good grip of who you are and your values, because I tell you in this stage you will need every good traits you have if you are dealing with so much pain. If you don't let go, pains could deceive you and could push you to do things you are not suppose to do. Always think that if you let go and succeed to endure the pains, you will come out a better person and looking back you know you haven't done anything bad to anybody. That's why it's good to end the relationship at once if it needs to end and don't cling on it, you have to let it go. When it comes to cheating, try not to blame yourself and learn to let go. You want answers why you've been cheated because you have this insecurity of being replaced, but the truth is, there is no answer. Even in the best of relationships "forever" is rare. When you accept to love someone you have to accept too that you will get hurt. It's not your fault that he cheated you, cheating is a human nature especially with males who cannot take a good grip of their faithfulness when faced with lust. But men with a good grip of their character and values will find themselves shy away from it because their love for someone is greater than their lust and that's what separate boys from men. Boys' cheats but men don't. You can be 45 but still a boy and you can be 18 but can be called a man. Character and not age makes a man. In getting hurt, women usually think, they are the ones who are always greatly hurt in most of the relationships they have. I often wonder how men appear so cold and make it looks like everything is easy even with heartaches, but I guess men and women always have different ways of dealing with heartaches. But hurt or pains has nothing to do with gender, its about love, those who love the most, cry the most and get hurt the most. Don't be sorry that you cry the most or get hurt the most, be glad that that you were able to give most of the love in your relationship. If you love someone accept that you will get hurt too. And when it's time to let go, just accept it and be glad that you have loved with all your heart. Lovers to friends - don't put too much effort in it. It rarely happens; it's one in a million. If yours is that one in a million, it will still not happen right away, it needs time. If lovers have a good foundation of friendship before they became lovers and the friendship becomes cloudy because of too much hurt and unusual happenings, after the rain and the clouds are all clear, the sun will shine and if there is really a solid friendship, maybe it could happen-lovers to friends, but don't count on it as I said it rarely happens. When it's time to let go, give yourself time to heal, cry if you need to, and grieve if you have to. It's the process of healing, but don't stop there, get a life it's not the end of the world. Yes life is tough, but you have to embrace it, live it because it's your life. It may not be a beautiful life but you have to own it, it's yours and you can make it beautiful. Besides, God will not give you things you cannot handle, if He has faith in you that you can handle the life handed to you, you have to have some faith in yourself too that you can get through tough times. Let go, set him free, set your self free and move on. If he is really meant for you, time will tell and your paths will meet again. Tired of Being Lonely? Tired of Getting Dumped or Cheated on? Tired of Men that Won't Make a Commitment? Can't Stand Another Saturday Night Alone? Learn the secret how become a man magnet visit The Insider's Secret on How to Become a Man MagnetAbout the Author Gerry Restrivera writes informative articles on various subjects including Love and Relationships
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Catching a Liar by Interpreting Body Language
Reading body language to know if a person is lying applies not just to ordinary people but even to professionals, as well. The police use it to determine if the person is guilty of a certain wrongdoing or not, teachers employ it to find out if the child really has or hasn't done his or her homework and parents apply it to find out if their teenagers really did go to a group study session as they said they would. In the past, it seemed like reading body language to judge guilt may not have been in effect, at least in some cultures. Tribal groups of centuries back used to figure out if a native committed a crime using pain tests, such as dipping a hand in boiling water, walking on fiery coals, and others. For instance, a native whose hand came out scalded after a dip in hot water is considered guilty at the time. Luckily, no such judging process exists anymore and we have the chance to disprove allegations by appearing in court and giving our statements. However, it may not be easy either, because it requires knowledge of reading body language. How can you tell if the other person is lying through his teeth? There are several ways to tell. One is when the other person is unable to look you in the eye as he tells his lie. Thus, if you ask your partner if he has been cheating on you, you will know that something is amiss if he says he hasn't but looks elsewhere while he says so. Of course, there are people who have perfected the art of lying that the eye test does not always work. Other indicators of lying include restless hands (that is, he keeps touching his face, his arms, fixing his clothes, or tinkering with something), ill timing of gestures (that is, his body language seems to be off-kilter and awkward), or increased defensiveness. A person who has been accused of lying gets rather anxious as he tries to disprove the allegation. Here's another way you can also tell if the person is lying. When you suddenly shift to another topic, he also shifts to a more comfortable and relaxed state. A person who lies will want to avoid talking about the tense subject as much as possible, so he will most definitely try to stay at the lighter topic and try to expand on that so that you will forget about the original issue. Most people have lied one way or another in their life. In fact, lying has become part of human nature. Sometimes we have to tell lies in order to avoid hurting somebody else. As the saying goes, what the person doesn't know won't hurt him. However, if discovering the truth is what you're after, then these tips mentioned here will help you find out if you're being duped or not. About the Author Michael Lee is the author of How to be a Red Hot Persuasion Wizard... in 20 days or less, an ebook that reveals mind-altering persuasion techniques. Get a sample chapter and highly-stimulating "Get What You Want" advice at http://www.20daypersuasion.com/. He is the Co-Founder of http://www.self-improvement-millionaires.com and is licensed as a Certified Public Accountant.
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Online Infidelity - Is Your Partner Having A Cyber Affair?
With the increasing use of the internet comes the risk of online infidelity which can lead to marital problems and can even cause a marriage to break down. These have become known as cyber-affairs. Many people can become addicted to online chat rooms where they can indulge in sexually explicit chat in real-time with total strangers. A climate of permissiveness pervades many of these chat rooms and instant messages sent privately between two people allow them to engage in erotic chats without the risk of being caught by their spouse. Webcams can be viewed, voice chat can be turned on instead of typing in text, and pictures and files of a sexual or personal nature can be transferred secretly by linking peer-to-peer. The anonymity provided by chat rooms allows users to share their intimate feelings without feeling embarrassed. Initial chat conversations may be fairly innocent but when someone gets a sympathetic response from a fellow chatter this can turn into a deep emotional attachment to them. The messages often then become intensely personal and can develop into a cyber affair. This is a form of adultery and it can develop into a full-blown affair with secret phone calls and even clandestine meetings. Even if it stays on a non-physical plane it can still be devastating for a wife or husband to discover that his partner has been indulging in emotional infidelity with someone she doesn't really know. A wife or husband may believe that it is all harmless escapism and they are doing nothing wrong but their spouse will feel a deep sense of betrayal knowing that their spouse has been discussing intimate details with a virtual stranger. Why do people have cyber affairs? Studies have shown that it is a form of emotional escape into an online fantasy world to escape the problems and realities of everyday life. Anyone can assume an online persona which is totally unlike their real one. A neglected wife can have her pick of cyber partners who fall for her onscreen sexy persona and who are assuming a persona themselves as a hot lover. Usually the reality is quite different as the hot lovers may be husbands themselves who are also indulging in their own little fantasy world. If you suspect a cyber affair then ask yourself these questions. a) Is your partner's main interest chat rooms? b) Does your partner stay up late on the computer while you are alone in bed? c) Do they want to be left alone while they are on the computer? d) Do they act secretive if you enter the room whilst they are on the computer? e) Do they get irritated when you question the amount of time they are spending on the computer? f) Do they spend more time on the computer than with you or the family? g) Do you feel that they are neglecting the household? If the answer to most of these questions is yes then your partner may be having a cyber-affair. About the Author Anthony Bradley is a writer for Save Your Marriage which has many more articles on the subject of marriage which you can read right here.
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The Infidelity Survival Guide For Men
Having a woman cheat on you is pretty brutal. Now the biggest problem men have here is that they put all of the blame on themselves. They wonder what they did wrong, and - of course - there's value in that. You may have made a mistake. But still that woman has a mind of her own. She doesn't just react and you can't control her behavior. So you might have to deal with the startling but painful picture that she just cheated on you and that it was her fault. After all she was unfaithful, not you. For me, infidelity is a breakup reason. There are many men who whine and moan about what it was that they did wrong, and they almost excuse to her for making her cheat on them. It's understandable to some degree because they are hurt and they want her back or at least want to understand. That's one reason you've searched for the infidelity survival guide for men in the first place, right? But think about it: She cheated on you. Is she really the person you've thought she was? Is that the person you fell in love with or does that person only exist inside your head? What I recommend is a clear cut. She's not the person you love, she cheated on you, she misused your trust, she's hurt you. Why on earth would you want to stay with that person. That act invalidated all the nice memories you are punishing yourself with all the time, thinking about how wonderful it was and why it can't be that way anymore. It hurts, no doubt about that. But kick her off a throne she doesn't deserve. She's a cheater and she deserves contempt if anything. You should focus your anger on yourself but on her. Now by all means don't get violent. But stop beating yourself up and stop punishing yourself with a wrong image of her. Obviously it was fake. This is one of the main points of this infidelity survival guide for men. Now the longer you've been in a relationship with that person, the more it hurts. You have more memories of her and everything you see reminds yourself of her. What I recommend is that you move on and find a trustful person. They are out there. One way to get out of the state of needing her above everything else even after breakup is to meet other women as fast as possible. That way you're convinced that there are more fish in the sea and that you don't really need her, who cheated on you anyways. You can find someone better. Don't lose yourself in all that pain and hurt. Fight for the good life that can be yours. You certainly don't need a cheating woman for that. After quite some time of being in a relationship you may have problems meeting other women. I'm not sure if you're in the mood right now, but you can sign up to my newsletter that will help you meet more women so you can choose a faithful one this time. I hope the infidelity survival guide for men was helpful. Whatever you do, all the luck in your further life, Kevin. About the Author Kevin Jackson runs a free course on seduction, dating and female attraction. To get the course, just click here: www.freeseductionnewsletter.com
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Forgiveness For Committing Adultery
Very few people get through life without having been hurt by a friend, a partner or a member of their family. In fact it is almost impossible to avoid the inevitable thoughtless remark, the misunderstandings, the disregard for people's feelings and general disagreements, but some things are far harder to recover from than most with infidelity being near the top of the list. Many of us get hurt by the smaller things, even from the unintentional and forgiveness for such indiscretions is usually quite swift but forgiveness for committing adultery isn't so easy. Surviving infidelity is one of the hardest things anyone has to do and the sheer thought of actually offering 'forgiveness for committing adultery' is in complete opposition to the hurt and the pain and the immense hatred of the cheating spouse. It is so easy to stay angry, to get wound up in those early feelings of betrayal and to hold on to the pain but the easiest way of surviving infidelity is to move on and learning to forgive your partner is a way to heal. In offering forgiveness for committing adultery your partner's behaviour can no longer cause you anger, you can let go of the hurt, the pain and the feelings of betrayal and start moving on with your life. Anger is destructive, an emotion that can eat you up and destroy your life, learning to forgive and let go is a way to help you and not an easy way out for your partner. Forgiveness enables you to let go of all those feelings, it doesn't mean you won't ever remember what has happened, won't remember the pain, it isn't about the difference between right and wrong or that you are accepting the behaviour of your partner. It's about healing your self, learning from the experience, dealing with it and in so doing enabling you to move on. In learning to forgive your partner for committing adultery you are not in any way indicating that your relationship can continue, you are not saying that their behaviour was acceptable and you are not saying that you are prepared to carry on the way things are. In forgiveness for committing adultery comes the ability to make the choice, decide whether you want to try and save your marriage or move on with your life without your cheating spouse. It is often easier not to have to think about the future, about how you are going to recover from infidelity but as time goes by those feelings of hurt and betrayal will become harder to bear. It is easier to try and forget, try and not have to deal with reality but at some point you have to stop, start thinking about the situation, try and see it from your partner's point of view, try and understand what happened, why it happened and where you go from here. Blame is not the answer, you can't blame your partner or yourself, you have to look beyond the blame, beyond the mixed up emotions and start taking control of your life. Try and understand that we are all human and that we all make mistakes but unfortunately some mistakes are greater than others. Not everything we do is intentional, some things just happen, not an excuse but a fact. Look at your relationship, think about how things were in the past and decide if it's worth fighting for. Look at the positives, remember all the things you used to do together which you enjoyed, would going back to basics, starting again enable you to save your marriage. Consider what part you had to play in the indiscretion, was there a problem with your relationship that neither of you, had tried to, or been able to fix, were things at home just not working well, was there something you could have both done that much better. Quite often infidelity is as a result of marriage problems, not always but often. Again it is no excuse for the actions of your partner, their responsibilities lay in making you aware of how bad things were and not just jumping into some one else's bed but it might help you understand why and help you move ever closer to forgiveness 'for committing adultery' and start the healing process. About the Author For more advice on infidelity and other marriage problems please visit my websites: Save your Marriage, Common Marriage Problems
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Quiz Identifies Workplace Friendships Which Could Become Workplace Romance
In less than 2 weeks, workplace romance and office affairs have become the focus of much attention because of two major stories in the news. The arrest of NASA Astronaut Lisa Nowak for attempted kidnapping and murder of a perceived rival for the affections of fellow astronaut, and the San Francisco Mayor Gavin Newsom's public apology for having an affair with his campaign manager's wife show the problems that can result from office romance and workplace affairs. "A workplace friendship with someone of the opposite sex can easily become a workplace romance." says infidelity expert Ruth Houston, founder of www.InfidelityAdvice.com Houston, author of Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs cautions, "Anytime workmates of the opposite sex work in close proximity on a regular basis for extended periods of time, the potential for workplace romance or office affairs exists. But how can someone tell if their opposite sex friendship with a co-worker is in the danger zone? To help identify workplace friendships dangerously close to becoming a workplace romance, infidelity expert Ruth Houston has designed the Workplace Romance Quiz which appears below. The Workplace Romance Quiz 1. Are you concealing information about your workplace friendship from your spouse or significant other? 2. Do you confide in your workplace friend now instead of your spouse? 3. Do you find yourself turning to your workplace friend for emotional support? 4. Is your workplace friend more fun to be with than your spouse? 5. Do you complain to your workplace friend about your spouse or your marriage? 6. Do you devote more time, attention or energy to your workplace friend than you devote to your spouse? 7. Do you concoct reasons or create excuses to be with your workplace friend? 8. Do you miss your workplace friend when you're not together? 9. Do you find your workplace friend sexually attractive? 10. Do you use your workplace friend as a sounding board for your personal problems? 11. Would you act differently toward your workplace friend if your spouse were present? 12. Do you fantasize about your workplace friend ? 13. Would your spouse be upset to see how you interact with workplace friend? 14. Would you be uncomfortable with the situation if your spouse had a similar workplace friendship with someone of the opposite sex? SCORING: Count the total number of yes answers. 1 - 4 This is a relatively harmless workplace friendship unless both questions 1 and 9 were answered yes. That automatically puts this friendship in the danger zone. 5 - 8 This is workplace friendship that is dangerously close to becoming a workplace affair. If both 1 and 9 were answered yes, it's already there. 9 - 14 This is a workplace friendship which has already advanced to the level of a workplace affair. As such, it poses a VERY serious threat to the marriage or relationship of the individuals involved. Copyright 2007 Ruth Houston, founder of InfidelityAdvice.comThose concerned about their (or their partner's ) workplace friendship and want to know what to do, should request Houston's free tip sheet entitled " How to Keep a Workplace Friendship from Becoming a Workplace Romance." E-mail InfidelityAdvice@gmail.com with "Workplace Romance Tip Sheet-p" in the subject line. For more information about workplace romance and office affairs, visit http://www.InfidelityAdvice.comAbout Ruth Houston Infidelity expert Ruth Houston is the founder of Infidelity Advice.com and the author of Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs, which documents practically every known sign of infidelity. Frequently called on by the media to comment on infidelity issues in the news, Ruth has been quoted in the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, the Los Angeles Times, Cosmopolitan, the New York Post, the Chicago Tribune, the San Francisco Chronicle, the National Post, Macleans, iVillage, MSN Lifestyle, UPI, Reuters, Agence France-Presse and numerous other print and online media. Ruth has appeared as a guest on The Today Show, Good Day New York, 1010WINS, CNN, CN8, BBC, CBC, Ireland's Late Late Show and over 320 other radio and TV talk shows worldwide. For more information about workplace romance and office affairs, visit http://www.InfidelityAdvice.com( PRWEB) February 13, 2007
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9 Signs of Infidelity that Typically Appear After Valentine's Day
"There are several signs of infidelity that typically appear AFTER Valentine's Day, which can confirm the existence of an extramarital affair," says infidelity expert Ruth Houston, founder of www.InfidelityAdvice.com and author of "Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs. "But knowing what to look for is the key."
Houston advises anyone who suspects a spouse or significant other of cheating to be alert for the following post-Valentine's Day telltale signs of infidelity:
A hidden gift discovered before Valentine's Day that has disappeared but wasn't given to you
Receipts for the purchase of 2 identical gifts.
Receipts or credit card statements for candy, flowers, jewelry, lingerie you didn't personally receive.
Receipts or charge slips for gifts that don't correspond with the gift he gave you.
A thank you note or e-mail to or from your spouse for a Valentine's Day gift you know nothing about.
Gifts of a personal nature, like jewelry or lingerie, that suddenly appear after Valentine's Day, which she attempts to pass off as items she purchased for herself. ( Ask to see the sales receipt.)
Restaurant receipts or charge slips dated February 13, 14, 15 for meals that didn't include you.
Credit card receipts for a hotel stay dated the day before, the day after, or on Valentine's Day.
Telephone or cell phone bills showing suspicious calls made early morning or late evening or at lunchtime on Valentine's Day. copyright 2007 Ruth Houston, founder of InfidelityAdvice.com"Signs of infidelity seldom appear in isolation." warns Houston. "If your spouse or significant other is cheating, there will be scores of corroborating signs. Where there's one sign, there are plenty of others just waiting to be found. Since many of the signs are subtle and easy to overlook, knowing what to look for is the key." Other Signs of Infidelity Houston's book, Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs (Lifestyle Publications, $29.95) covers practically every known sign of infidelity, including the subtle signs people usually overlook. Despite the title, most of the signs in Houston's book apply to cheating women, as well as cheating men. However the e-book version of Is He Cheating on You? sold at http://www.booklocker.com/books/1755.html has a special section for men with cheating wives or girlfriends, entitled Is She Cheating. Knowing What to Look for is the Key The signs of infidelity covered in Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs are conveniently grouped into 21 major categories so a suspicious spouse or significant other can easily locate the signs that apply to his or her mate. Each category consists of from 19 to 92 specific telltale signs. Houston says" If your mate is really cheating, you'll find multiple signs from several of those 21 categories all at once. But I can't stress strongly enough that knowing what to look for is the key." Houston offers a free Tip Sheet which describes in detail each of the 21 Major Categories of Infidelity Signs. You can request a copy by sending an e-mail to InfidelityInfo @ gmail.com with "The 21 categories-p" in the subject line. For more practical advice on Valentine's Day cheaters or signs of infidelity, visit www.InfidelityAdvice.com About Ruth Houston: Infidelity expert Ruth Houston is the founder of Infidelity Advice.com and the author of Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs, which documents practically every known sign of infidelity. Frequently called on by the media to comment on infidelity issues in the news, Ruth has been quoted in the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, the Los Angeles Times, Cosmopolitan, the New York Post, the Chicago Tribune, the San Francisco Chronicle, the National Post, Macleans, iVillage, MSN Lifestyle, UPI, Reuters, Agence France-Presse and numerous other print and online media. Ruth has appeared as a guest on The Today Show, Good Day New York, 1010WINS, CNN, CN8, BBC, CBC, Ireland's Late Late Show and over 320 other radio and TV talk shows worldwide. For more information about workplace romance and office affairs, visit http://www.InfidelityAdvice.com( PRWEB) February 13, 2007
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Astronaut Jealousy Love Triangle Reveals Just How Big The Problem of Jealousy and Jealous Behaviour Truly Is For Many Couples
Chillicothe, Ohio ( PRWEB) February 8, 2007 -- Bizarre conduct, such as what Astronaut Lisa Nowak is accused of, happens in relationships and marriages much more than you might think. With a divorce rate of 50% and higher in the USA and many other countries, many people are left wondering "Why?" In most relationships and marriages, "Sex, Money and Communication" are typically thought of as the big reasons why couples fight, argue and even break up. While these issues continue to be challenges for many couples, jealousy and the jealous behavior by one or more of the partners is quickly emerging as one of the big sticking points in many relationships and marriages. I'm afraid you're going to leave me In fact, according to Relationship Coaches Susie & Otto Collins, there are several reasons why this is happening and here are a few: 1. Most couples are busier than ever, and are trying to "do it all." They put their relationship on the "back burner" and don't take the time to connect and communicate with each other. 2. More time is spent at work with co-workers than with a spouse and this is causing mistrust and misunderstandings between couples. 3. Many people are buying into unhealthy expectations and beliefs about relationships such as "You should know what I'm thinking or feeling without me telling you," "I'm afraid you're going to leave me," or "You'll always be there." Jealousy has become a huge problem that can cripple a relationship between two people who otherwise love or care abut each other deeply. What's the solution? According to the Collins' there are some ways to heal jealousy… 1. Jealous feelings result from real or imagined fears that the relationship will be taken away. The first thing is to determine whether the fears result from real or imagined events. 2. When triggered by jealousy, breathe and keep focused on what's truly happening in situations. Don't listen to the stories that are made up in your mind. 3. Create a plan for healing jealousy. If there's truth to your suspicions, deal with that truth in a straightforward way. If there's no truth and nothing currently "causing" jealous behavior, decide to heal it and take steps to change. Jealousy can be healed. It just takes courage, commitment and learning some new skills. Because this is such a big problem, Susie and Otto Collins also offer a free online audio and lessons for overcoming jealousy that has been helpful to thousands of individuals and couples dealing with jealous issues from their web site at http://www.NoMoreJealousy.com For interviews, call Susie and Otto Collins 740-772-2279.
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How To Catch My Cheating Wife
If you are asking yourself, "How do I catch my cheating wife" you may be getting ahead of yourself. If you have solid proof that your wife is already involved in an affair then you don't need to read any farther. If you are at a point in your marriage where you have that terrible feeling deep down inside that your wife is cheating then it may be time to start looking for the signs of infidelity. If the signs are there then it is time to find out the truth so that the emotional turmoil not knowing can be put to rest. For many men dealing with a wife's infidelity can be something they don't initially want to deal with. The emotional impact can be more than you want to handle and any decisions made to deal with the betrayal are entirely personal. Advice will come from any number of people including friends, family and coworkers but in the end only you know your true feelings on the issue and how best to deal with it. If you truly believe your wife may be cheating on you it is good to know the many tell tale signs to look for. Once you have established that things have changed then you can take the next step of getting the evidence needed and catch your cheating wife. Here are some of the signs to look for if you suspect your wife of having an affair. *Diminished sense of intimacy - If you get that sense that your wife just isn't interested in you then you may have a problem. This extends beyond the bedroom and into everyday life. If you used to have a sharing wife who talked to you about everything and shared intimate details about herself but she has suddenly seemed to distance herself from these intimate conversations then there may be reason to suspect her. When it comes to sexual intimacy this can play out two ways. She may no longer show any desire to be intimate with you or she may suddenly start a whole new sexual repertoire and a desire to try things she never wanted to do before. If this is something you have talked about, this new sexual gymnastics then this is probably not a problem, but if it just starts out of the blue it could be a sign that she is learning new things from someone else. * A decrease in arguments - When the intimacy goes you may also notice a change in what sets her off. Things that normally used to make her mad may no longer bring out her anger. This can be seen as a sign that she isn't much interested in what you are doing, even if it's something that would usually make her mad. * Changes in dress and appearance - If your normally conservative wife suddenly starts to dress more provocatively or makes a drastic change in her physical appearance with a new haircut and spending more time putting on her make up before she leaves for the day it may be more than her just wanting to look good. This is particularly true if you compliment her on her new look but she just brushes you off. * Less interest in friends and family - If she starts spending less time with you and the kids for other activities that she attends alone you may need to start doing some investigating. This is also true if she isn't as active with her usual circle of friends and family members. * Kid's behavior changes - Kids are extremely perceptive creatures and even though they may not say anything sudden changes in the way the react around their mom could have some meaning. They may not know exactly what is going on but they will react to changes in her behavior as well. Dealing with a cheating wife is something no man wants to have to go through. Once the signs of cheating become evident it is up to you to decide how to answer your original question, "How to catch my cheating wife?" About the Author - Andrew Bicknell If the signs of a cheating wife are there and you want to learn more about how to catch my cheating wife click here.
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