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It's Just So Tragic How A Father Could Kill His Family

2007-06-11T23:34:00.000-07:00

I don't know if you've kept up with the news surrounding the mass murder of a family over the weekend in Delaware Wisconsin, it turns out that this was a murder suicide. The local police are suspecting the father was jealously enraged and shot his wife, his 6 month old twin boys, his sister-in-law and a friend. They also found a 2 year old girl in the family's minivan with a gunshot to her chest.

Can you imagine? Almost a whole family just gone because some stupid dodo decides to kill everyone over a jealous rage. What is this world coming to? With so much violence around us, wouldn't you think that a parent's instinct should be to try to protect their children from the big bad wolf? This person who did this is so selfish, he can't see beyond his ass. That there are other people in this world that matters and that it is not always about him.

There must be a way to stop idiots like him from starting families.

How to Get Over an Old Boyfriend

2007-06-07T01:05:00.000-07:00

Some women have a knack for bouncing back from a bad breakup. It seems they give themselves a day or two to mourn the loss of the relationship before hitting the dating scene with gusto. Then they never look back. Their motto: Nothing helps you get over the last guy like the next guy.

Unfortunately, many women can't shake a lost love because they're unwilling to accept that the relationship is over. They replay old conversations in their heads. They obsess over what they should have done to avoid the breakup. They arrange to bump into the guy and convince him he's made a mistake. They fantasize about him constantly. They believe that he's "the one," and that the relationship was "meant to be." They fear that if they let go emotionally, they'll have thrown away their shot at true love.

But, really, it's holding on emotionally to an old boyfriend that amounts to throwing away true love. Two objects cannot inhabit one space at the same time. Giving an ex free room and board in one's heart makes it impossible for a new one to move in.

How does a woman get over an ex-boyfriend?

She must make a decision to get over him, and then she needs the discipline to carry it out. She must throw out every material item that reminds her of him. She cannot afford to entertain a single pleasant thought about the relationship. Instead, it helps to write a list of the things he did that drove her crazy (the way he kept sniffling instead of reaching for a tissue, for example, or his habit of using unnecessarily big words) and refer to it often. If a friend brings up his name, it's imperative that she change the subject. By all means, she should avoid speaking of him at all.

Certain smells (his cologne, or the fragrance of a special food she enjoyed with him) and sounds, particularly music, will bring him back into her head at the most inopportune times. Her best bet is not to remove herself from the triggers, but to immerse herself in them until they no longer remind her of him.

It helps if she hits the social scene often by seeing friends, taking classes, and going to bookstores. If a woman makes a point of meeting new people, she will meet new men. When she meets a guy with potential, it's critical that she give him a fair chance. Mentally comparing him to her ex is a mistake. She'd have been better off staying home watching Seinfeld reruns.

A woman can get over a lost love, but only if she's willing. She must consciously block him from her heart and mind. It's not easy at first, but it does get easier. Once she evicts the guy for good, she can move on to the passion and happiness she deserves.

About the Author
Terry Hernon MacDonald is the happily married author of "How to Attract and Marry the Man of Your Dreams." Sign up for free dating tips at http://www.marrysmart.com. Check out her blog at http://happygirlmusing.blogspot.com

Bumping Into Her Husband

2007-05-31T10:13:00.000-07:00

How Do You Define Cheating?

2007-05-23T08:20:00.000-07:00

Recently I came across a very interesting article by Brad Leibowitz on relationship infidelity.

"When left to our own measures, men the world over can find themselves in a world of debauchery. For those who are hitched, when it comes to infidelity, what actually constitutes going too far? Where do you draw the line in the sand?"

It's a good question.

My answer to this would probably be different from yours, simply because we are all different individuals. We each have different expectations from our partners when in a relationship. But one thing remains constant ... and that is the promise of being monogamous to each other.

Brad also mentions in his article that "it's obvious that men are characterized as the sex that cheats the most," and that "women set the guidelines for what cheating truly is".

Women set rules, and men break them.

For the most part, I do agree. Women set most of the "rules" in a relationship. It's because we are more vocal in our expectations from our partners when in a relationship and we just expect our men to "get in line".

However, in all fairness, half of our so called "rules" are just an accident waiting to be broken. I have a girlfriend, who to this day still has not realized that "talking to another girl" and "not answering his phone, where must he be" does not constitute cheating. So, she gets the girls out to party, "meet men" and has totally convinced herself that he's already out there breaking their bond of trust with another woman.

We all have to understand that basic rule of cause and effect. There has to be a cause in order to get the effect. Maybe, we try to concentrate too much on the result rather than what instigated the result. In my girlfriend's case, she's deemed her partner guilty before he's even cheated on her.

Ladies, after a man's been convicted and tried without any justified reason, where do you think the next step in your relationship will lead?

Love in Disarray by Marzie

2007-05-11T14:30:00.000-07:00

Several nights ago, I was made to take a reluctant stroll down memory lane upon receiving this text message from a friend - He's with her tonight. Never thought it would hurt this much. Picturing my dear friend's face crumpling into tears at the thought of her loved one in the ultimate act of betrayal, my mind instantly wandered to once upon a time, when I was entangled in something similar.

When you initially find yourself in a messy love triangle, you will yourself to remain strong, anticipating the brewing storm ahead. You fake happiness to others by pretending you still have him captivated under your spell. You embrace your memories ever so closely, hoping they won't be your last and struggle to keep your emotions intact, fearing he'd notice and resent your vulnerability.

As days turn into weeks and weeks into months, you slowly start to lose resolve. It gets harder to maintain a strong facade. Each time you see him sending an "innocent" text message to her, your heart breaks. When you catch him smiling and whispering into his cell phone, your heart shatters into a million more pieces. A moment he stays away is an eternity of excruciation.

And yet, you persevere; desperately clinging to any hope of rekindling an inevitably dying romance. You refuse to allow that one constant leave your already topsy-turvy life so you continue to be a willing player in this torrid love affair, simply because it's better to play than to be benched.

Despite your brave front, you're slowly disintegrating inside. You despise yourself for compromising your principles to his notion of perfection. You've become a distant silhouette of your former self; changing into the person he so desired. Just when you're about to lose your identity completely, you realize that he too has metamorphosed into a complete stranger that in no way resembles the guy you initially fell for.

And so you leave, walking out with what little strength and pride remaining within. You take consolation in acknowledging that love isn't what you seek if it means having to be his second choice. You realize that once love turns into anger and hate rears its ugly head, the only way out of your insanity is to walk away and let him go. You recognize that dreams don't always come true, no matter how badly you want them to but most of all you now understand that true love, whatever his standards, was never meant to be that hard.

About Marzie!
Marzie describes herself as an incurable romantic who loves to write about life, her adorable kitty cat Phoebe, and her obsession with perfumes! I'd like to thank her for contributing this insightful story of heartbreak to The Diva Network and I hope that you enjoyed reading it as much as I did. You can catch more of her at Mariuca - Wishing on a Falling Star and Mariuca's Perfume Gallery.

Learn What a Florida Private Investigator Can Do For You

2007-05-09T10:42:00.000-07:00

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(PRWEB) May 9, 2007

New Movie on Awareness Can Help Stop Divorce

2007-05-07T18:41:00.000-07:00

Marriage counseling expert Nancy Wasson, Ph.D. states that the long-term success of many marriages may largely depend on how the partners handle conflict within the relationship.

Wasson and her husband Lee Hefner have created a free short Internet video designed to help partners lessen the risk of an affair, marriage separation and eventual divorce resulting from repeated heated arguments in a relationship.

"Our movie Seasons of Love is intended to inspire and encourage people to have more self awareness in how they respond to their partner during conflict in a relationship," says Dr. Wasson.

She continues by saying that viewers of the movie often have an "aha moment" when they realize that they have more power than they ever imagined before about charting the future of their relationship.

"The viewer response has been tremendous from all over the world from people who want a better relationship," states Wasson. Seasons of Love may be viewed for free on the web site SeasonsOfLoveMovie.com.

"One of the most tragic eventual results when spouses fight again and again can be marriage separation or divorce," says Dr. Wasson. "But if the couple learns some simple techniques, they can sometimes stop divorce and save the marriage even when they've had marital problems for some time."

Wasson maintains that flaring tempers in a disagreement often trigger partners to say things to each other leading to an escalating spiral of conflict. And if the couple doesn't know how to recover from the hurt feelings and smoldering resentment such arguments often produce, the long-term result may be a slippery slope to marriage counseling, marital separation, and finally divorce.

"But it doesn't have to happen," claims Wasson. "I hear upset spouses say, 'He pushes my buttons and makes me lose my temper.' But the truth is, no one else can 'make' you lose your temper. That is your choice."

Dr. Wasson points out that there is a challenge as well as an opportunity when dealing with the conflict in a marriage. "Realize that between the stimulus of your partner's critical remarks and your angry response, there's a gap in which you can make a decision about how to respond."

Dr. Wasson adds that watching the movie is an important first step in learning to minimize conflict during a disagreement with a spouse.

She says that subsequent steps include:

1. First clarify that you fully understand what's going on by asking non-judgmental questions. Try to listen for the meaning and intent behind your partner's words and actions instead of just focusing on the words. For example you might ask, "Did you really want to go to that party next week or did you just accept the invitation for us because you felt obligated to your friend?"

2. When it becomes evident that you and your partner disagree, ask yourself, "Would I rather be happy instead of being right in this case?" If you remember how much you value love and harmony in your relationship, you may decide to sometimes concede to your partner's wishes, even if you would have taken a different approach.

3. If you find yourself feeling hot under the collar, first take ten deep breathes before you angrily respond to your mate. This will give you time to collect your thoughts and think of the big picture and how you want your relationship to be, not on how you're feeling in that moment.

4. Finally, when you answer look for common ground that you both agree on before stating your objection, using a softening statement. You might say, "Honey, I know that it's important to both of us to have a social life, but I really have to do some work at home that's going to make it difficult for me to go to that party."

Dr. Wasson concludes by saying, "One of the keys to having a great marriage is to remember what you really value in your relationship and to think twice before you respond with anger to your mate."

Nancy Wasson, Ph.D., is the co-creator of Overcome Control Conflict with Your Spouse or Partner: What to Do if Your Mate Says You're Too Controlling OR if You're Tired of Being Controlled, available at www.ControllingSpouse.com.

She and her husband Lee Hefner also created the free movie Seasons of Love, available at www.SeasonsOfLoveMovie.com, which is designed to help couples develop more self awareness.

In addition, she is the co-author of Keep Your Marriage: What to Do When Your Spouse Says 'I Don't Love You Anymore!' and offers a free weekly marriage advice newsletter at www.KeepYourMarriage.com.

Birmingham, AL (PRWEB) May 7, 2007

Dating the Married Man

2007-05-05T20:30:00.000-07:00

Why do some single women date married men? After all, relationships with unavailable partners usually result in heartbreak. Most of the men never leave their wives, and the ones who do are no bargain: They're the type of guys who cheat on their wives.

But women who date married men know this from the beginning. So what's the payoff for getting involved with one?

She is attracted to him because he's already involved with somebody else. In many cases, the Other Woman wouldn't be turned on by the guy if he wasn't. The fact that he's "taken" is proof of his desirability. The fact that another woman's husband wants her is proof of hers.

Forbidden relationships are filled with desire, suspense, and excitement. Married men are only available occasionally; the guy's wife may be sick of looking at him, but the Other Woman never knows when he can steal away to be with her. She can't wait to see him and makes the most of their time together.

Consciously, the Other Woman may long for him to leave his wife, but subconsciously she's glad he probably won't. She will never have to pick his socks off the floor, listen to him scream at his kids, or use the bathroom after he's knocked off 25 pages of the latest Tom Clancy in it.

Deep down, the woman who habitually dates married men (or is attracted to them) has commitment issues. She may curse her bad luck, but she's probably terrified of marriage. She may dread the day-to-day routine. She may fear boredom. She may be afraid that wedlock will spell the end of her independence. She may also believe that all men are incapable of fidelity. To avoid making herself vulnerable, she continually casts herself as the partner-in-crime rather than the potential victim.

Whatever her reasons, poaching another woman's husband is flat-out wrong. And, while the wife may never find out about the affair, both cheaters ultimately suffer from guilt and eroding self-respect.

If you're involved with a married man, sit down and have a talk with yourself. Determine what exactly attracts you to a doomed, morally bankrupt relationship. Determine your fears and beliefs about men and marriage. Come to terms with those that don't serve you and your future happiness.

Then put one foot in front of the other. Walk away from your married man and don't look back. The guy's no bargain.

About the Author
Terry MacDonald is the happily married author of "How to Attract and Marry the Man of Your Dreams." Sign up for free dating tips and check out her blog. She plans a cruise for singles in 2007. Information can be obtained by email.

He Cheated On Me... Should I Take Him Back?

2007-04-25T02:52:00.000-07:00

Can Married Women Have Male Friends?

2007-04-19T19:48:00.000-07:00

Debbie, a smart, modern unmarried woman of 32 years, is an executive in a multinational company. These days, financially independent women are claiming equality in every field and most of them believe in having male friends too. Debbie too has three good male friends working in other companies. They are quite close and often meet each other together or separately in clubs, hotels and at her place.

Debbie knows how to keep good relations with friends. She has reached the conclusion that good friends are a boon and are a great help in many ways. However, she does not let any of them take an advantage and treats them just as friends and nothing else. She is of the opinion that when she marries someone who is surely not be anyone from these friends, she will be happy to continue her friendship with them. She feels that her future husband too will be happy to be friendly with her friends as they are all really nice persons.

Sarah, a recently married woman of 29 years had a childhood friend David of the same age who was staying next to her parents' house. They played together, fought many times and shared their happiness and little sorrows of childhood, adolescence and youth till she got married. There was never any talk of love though both liked each other. After marriage Sarah has moved to another town.

She is an intelligent and sober woman who has deliberately avoided communication with David lest their friendship is taken otherwise by her husband jeopardising their marriage.

FRIENDS - GREATEST ASSETS

Every individual needs friends and women are no exception. With real good friends one feels deep togetherness, closeness, sharing feelings and unconditional support. A true friend is one of life's greatest assets. A good friend helps at the time of need, tells us our shortcomings and mistakes and tries to stop us when we are on the wrong path.

Friends are those who help you in difficult times and who are happy when you are happy. One has to be very selective in developing a friendship and find a person of an amiable nature who has no vested interest. A woman may have a few friends of same sex and a few male friends in her student life and later when she was unmarried but having male friends in married life is something which creates problems and complications in married life.

Men are always keen to make friends with women as they find women better than men for close emotional relationships. Most men in their heart of hearts carry the subtle hope of developing intimacy with her. As the so-called modern city women themselves are anxious to have male friends, it suits both to be together as friends.

The so-called modern women are confident that their male friends cannot seduce them. But in actual life, they often yield to the advances of their male friends or they themselves take the initiative to fulfil their carnal desires due to their biological urges.

The ancient saints had advised long ago that a female and male should not get closer or sit on the same cot even when they are close relatives. Today's misguided women in their foolhardiness take advantage of the freedom to develop clandestine relationships, although it is they who suffer in the long run.

Kristy, a woman of 32 years and a proponent of women's lib, had few male friends before marriage. She always believed that as the men have their friends, why can women not have male friends? Kristy always felt more comfortable with her male friends than her female friends. After marriage when her male friend Tony visited her for the first time, Kristy introduced him to her husband Tim, as her best friend. Tim met him with warmth and dittoed Kristy's invitation extended to him for dinner at their place. Next day Tim rang up Garima from his office to inform her about his promotion announced that day. The maidservant who attended the phone told him that she had gone to Mrs Walker's house. He then rang up the Walker's house to talk to his wife but she was not there.

This aroused suspicions in Tim's mind. During the next visit of Tony, his suspicion turned into reality as he found them in a compromising position in his own house where on the insistence of Kristy, Tony stayed in their guest room. Tim got so infuriated that he killed both of them with his licensed revolver and informed the police who arrested him for murder.

Angela, aged 34 years and a mother of two pretty daughters, was not happy with her husband Roger. He got so busy in his business pursuits that he now was not able to give proper attention and time to his family. Angela drifted towards her husband's friend Scott, a local young man of 30 years, who sympathised with her and soon they developed an affair. On finding that his wife has strayed, Roger talked to her about it and both decided to go for divorce on mutual grounds. Scott fixed up Angela in a rented house on the promise of an early marriage but ditched Angela after a year, to marry another girl arranged by his parents. Angela now lives a lonely life after getting badly hurt and feels cheated, used and abandoned. Her family life is spoiled by her unscrupulous male friend and her own passion. She now misses her daughters, her good natured-husband and the earlier comfortable life.

LOOK BEFORE YOU LEAP

Friends should be trustworthy and one must have explicit faith in friends. But even then, there is a word of caution. Do not trust anyone too much and blindly even if he is your best friend. People have been betrayed mostly in matters of money, property and women by the persons who were trusted the most. Friendship is a satisfying, warm and positive feeling. A person with friends feels richer mentally and emotionally, and is usually more balanced individual than a loner.

Dangers of having male friends for married women:

* It may create a havoc in family life and lead to separation and divorce.

* It may destroy your reputation and your relatives and neighbours only on suspicion even when the relationship is without any sexual indiscretion.

* The woman runs the risk of losing her life as honour killing is not uncommon.

* When passion and madness take over the good sense of the woman, she may commit the crime of killing her husband in connivance with her paramour and then rot in prison.

* The children suffer in the long run and the woman may not get the custody of her children and thus get deprived of them. Some women do not want the burden of children to be passed on to them as they want to remain free birds with no encumbrances.

Unmarried men and married women as friends:

Women claiming equality in all respects want to continue with their old male friends and do not mind making new male friends even after marriage. But these options are risky. Although the women may be sure about her good friendly relations but who knows the male friend may be lusting about her and may show his true colours sooner or later. Now the question is, does she want to cheat on her husband and if exposed, is she prepared to face the upheaval and anger of her husband who will never like such a thing happening? Men are very sensitive and honour killing is not rare. It should be known that a few women having extramarital affairs have been killed by husbands or their hired killers.

Some women become so blind to their passion that they even get their husbands murdered conniving with their paramours. Not only this, a few women in the past have killed their children who have seen their mother in a compromising position with another man. Instances of grown-up sons murdering their adulterous mother have happened. In such cases the whole family has perished, the killers languishing in prison or punished by a death sentence. Sometimes, women have eloped with their lovers even when they are mothers of three or four children and were in their 30s and 40s.

Married men and married women as friends:

These types of affairs are the worst as not one family suffers but two as the married man is unfaithful to his wife and no more devoted to his family. The man makes false promises to marry her as soon as his divorce with his wife is through but most of the times it does not happen. The married woman who falls for a married man mostly lives as a concubine because most men want to carry on with such affairs on the side avoiding the censor of his family members, community and society. In the long run, the woman has to suffer in many ways for her wrong step. The wife of the man and other family members may create problems for her and even try to eliminate her. Not being a legal wife, she or her children borne out of this relationship, have no right or the man's property.

Husband's male friends:

The husband's male friends may become friends to her and she too may start treating them as her friends as they are always ready to do errands for her. They try to please her by their sweet words of praise for her looks, dress, decoration of the home, her talents, cooking and always find some or other opportunity to be with her. Some unscrupulous men do not hesitate to seduce their friend's wife who too may get closer to him in her weaker moments knowingly or unknowingly with the associated risk, as such a relationship does not remain hidden for long.

Precautions necessary to avoid adulterous relationships with male friends:

* It is best not to have male friends especially after marriage.

* If you do continue a friendship with a man after marriage and this is resented by your husband, terminate the friendship.

* Do not be foolhardy to insist that you will not give up your friendship as this will bring unhappiness in your family life and may lead to unpleasant consequences.

* Do not get friendly with husband's male friends and do not let them take too many liberties with you. Keep your distance.

* Have a control on your biological urges lest they bring doom in your life with unlimited miseries by affecting your reputation, respect and happiness.

* Do not get cheated by false praise and false promises. Do not believe men on their face value as most men ultimately develop lustful feeling towards a woman.

* Women can judge the intentions of men very well and correctly, then why fall prey to their lust and repent later?

* Friendship with males is not a very desirable option. Women who treat their husbands as their best and only male friend lead a very satisfying life.

The position of married women is different. Meeting male friends after marriage and moving with them is rarely liked by husbands. They do not like the appreciation which the woman shows towards her friend or what he shows towards her. It may be simple jealousy or a SUspicion about the fidelity and the faithfulness of the woman. This may create problems and may result in making a crack in the married life. It should also be understood that the association between a woman and a man as a friend is always full of risk because the chances of developing intimacy are always great. Rely more on your husband whose good friends will be the well-wishers of his family as well. Make good women friends for yourself for company and emotional support.

Women themselves never like their husbands to have female friends. Even when there may be nothing, his nearness to any woman arouses suspicion in the wife's mind and she raises a hue and cry about it. She neither likes her female friends to get closer to her husband nor her husband trying to be more free with them, lest he develops an intimate relationship with any of them. Most wise women remain vigilant about their female friends too, lest one of them tries to steal her husband.

About the Author
Visit Michael's collection of self help relationship books and books on marriage designed for engaged and married couples. Here you can also find relationship advice guides for women to help get her what she wants from her man.

Suspicious Number? Your Partner is Probably Cheating

2007-04-10T03:26:00.000-07:00

The rising tide of infidelity has spawned a new phenomenon in the Rockwellian suburbs of America: do-it-yourself investigations. More and more normal, mild-mannered people are conducting their own detective work in order to catch a cheating spouse. But even the most clever of betrayed lovers can only do so much on their own. In the normal course of self-sleuthing most people who suspect infidelity have come across some important clues. But the easiest, safest, and least expensive way of determining infidelity is by simply identifying a phone number.

It is an obvious but seldom considered fact that in order for people to have an affair, they must communicate. And beyond the obvious fact that everyone has a cell phone, people meeting in clandestine ways use cell phones to communicate. Because a cell phone can be used almost anywhere, people equate the privacy of talking on their phone in the car or other place where they are alone with secrecy, assuming that their communications will remain hidden.

When snooping spouses come across suspicious phone numbers on their significant other's cell phone, phone bill or even the house phone caller ID, they have likely found the most important clue in their investigation--one that will bring all the dirty secrets to light.

Of particular interest are repeating numbers. If, for example, a woman noticed that her husband's cell phone bill showed he called the same number after he left for work each morning, there might be cause for suspicion. If that same, unrecognized number was called during the day and/or on his way home, it would start to become clear that he was talking to a particular person during the times he was away from her. It stands to reason that she needs to know the name and address that corresponds to this phone number.

In all likelihood, the numbers people want identified are cell phone numbers. And as there is no database of such information, research must be done case by case. Some information brokers on the web sell bogus subscriptions for "unlimited lookups" and other such nonsense. "Instant results" is another scam that feeds on a lack of knowledge. Such results have to be from a database, and database info on landline numbers is old and outdated. Database info on cellular numbers simply doesn't exist and anyone selling such a thing is a liar.

While a cell phone number search will likely identify the "other person," people must take care not to be ripped off. When choosing an investigation company to help search phone numbers, make certain that the search ordered will return the name and address of the subscriber. Also, make certain that the company custom researches every number and does not return information from a database. Self-sleuthers should also be aware of the company's refund policy. What if they don't find the info? What if it's wrong?

With just a little help, and very little money out of pocket, those who suspect cheating can get to the bottom of the matter and either stop worrying or start moving on.

About the Author
Elizabeth Knightly is a freelance journalist covering matters of psychological and sociological importance. She currently resides in Dallas, TX with her neurotic cat.

What's That Smell?

2007-04-05T14:02:00.000-07:00

When Julie catches her husband Tom cheating, a nasty divorce leads to a stinky situation.

How To Buy A Wireless Spy Camera

2007-04-01T16:28:00.000-07:00

A Hidden Wireless Spy Camera Can Be Used for Many Purposes Including Catching Abusing Care Givers, Cheating Spouses, Nosey Landlords, Thieving Roommates, Employee Theft.

1) There are Color or black and white spy cameras. Color wireless spy cameras are better at distinguishing different items in the field of view but may be a little bit more expensive. Black and white models usually produce slightly higher resolution images and are a little bit cheaper cheaper than their color types.

2) Sensibility to low light. Measured in LUX. The lower the number the better the camera sees in low light conditions. For a spy camera to see in low light, go with a unit with a lux of 0.05 . For pitch dark covert operations opt for a lux of 0.03 .

3) Image quality. Measured in lines of resolution. The higher the number, the better the image quality. 380 lines of resolution is usually good enough even for professional private investigators.

4) Is the Receiver included? The receiver is what you connect to your TV, VCD or DVD to view the images and sound from the wireless spy camera. If the receiver is not included as part of the camera cost, ask how much one would cost and see if it fits your budget if it is an extra change.

5) Transmission frequency used. This is the frequency the wireless spy camera uses to transmit the video signal to the receiver. There are currently 434mhz, 900mhz, 1.2ghz and 2.4ghz transmission frequencies. Most good spy cameras are 2.4ghz and is sufficient for all covert surveillance operations.

Because of interference, you should stay away from 434mhz and 900mhz models. 1.2ghz and 2.4ghz are the better options.

6) Transmission range Measured in 'line of sight', it is a measure of the maximum distance the spy cam can stand away from the receiver and still receive the signal with no obstruction and interference between the two. The range is usually between 300 feet and 2000 feet depending on the model. Many wireless spy cameras specify a line-of-site range and the range if there were wall obstacles present.

7) Hidden Camera or Stand Alone There are Wireless Spy Cameras that can be mini and wireless that you can attach to a pole, hide in a box or flower pot and there are mini wireless cameras that are what they call Hidden Wireless Spy Camera. These cameras are placed into ordinary looking every day objects that we see in our environment every day, like smoke detectors, lamps, teddy bears, air fresheners, mirrors and many other objects. So depending on your application, you may want to get a hidden wireless spy camera and you are all set. You still use a receiver like the stand alone spy cameras but hidden cameras are more convenient and easier to place in your home or business.

WARNING: This figure can be misleading. Interference and obstruction are things you will probably be dealing with to some degree, so never accept the transmission range advertised as the real world effective range. Ask the store for a more realistic figure.

So now, you now have the necessary knowledge to buy a quality wireless spy camera on your own for any number of secret covert operations so please keep in mind these 7 basic factors when choosing one. It will make the difference between getting the evidence you want on that cheating husband, abusing nanny or thieving employee and a house decoration!

About the Author
Glenn Freiboth is an author for Surveillance news and lives in Illinois. Surveillance Equipment products can be found at http://www.spygearco.com/hidden-cameras.htm

When Politicians Cheat On Their Wives

2007-03-27T13:42:00.001-07:00

Is Your Husband On AffairMatch.com?

2007-03-27T03:40:00.000-07:00

How To Deal With Your Ex-husband's New Girlfriend

2007-03-19T20:32:00.000-07:00

Many of us find a new mate immediately after divorce. Your ex-husband may be one of them. This can be hard on you emotionally. My own ex took no break whatsoever. His relationship was the cause of our breakup. She moved in with him two months after he left my home. She left him after little more than a year. I was elated.

Her departure was satisfying on several levels. My feelings stemmed from my own hurt, and they also came from the disruption and pain she'd brought to my children's lives. But I admit that revenge was a factor. I liked the feeling that my ex was finally getting his comeuppance. Now he would feel the sting of rejection. I wanted him to suffer this. I had good reason. He had thrown out 13 years of marriage, and I wanted him to pay for it.

His girlfriend had been a painful reminder of all that, and I couldn't help but feel relief that her life no longer intersected with mine or my children's.

But these feelings of relief and satisfaction were quickly tempered by the fact that he soon found another girlfriend. I decided that any woman was better than the last, but still I wondered, how could anyone want to date a broke, often-unemployed, overweight, balding man?

His new girlfriend was only 24, 14 years younger than he was. She seemed nice enough, but deep down it still bothered me that he was happy. Despite all the books I had read on spirituality, forgiveness, and love, I still felt rage.

Try as I might, I couldn't understand these feelings. I no longer had any physical attraction to this man. I didn't even like him. Why would I care? The real reason was that I wanted him to suffer for what he had done to me.

It is normal to have confusing feelings long after the divorce is final. An ex's new partner can stir hostility whenever she comes in contact with your children. This is inevitable. Your life has been turned upside down. The familiar and routine are changed forever. Even if your marriage was filled with anger, it was still the life you knew. Some inmates find security in a prison cell. Marriage can be the same.

With divorce new people enter your life, some not by choice. You must find a way to deal with your ex's new love. This is difficult if you are not currently in a relationship yourself. Why him, but not me? You ask over and over.

You feel you are a good person, and you deserve love. You feel as if your ex deserves loneliness and pain. Stop taking it personally. The right person will show up. Though it may not seem so now, he will arrive at exactly the right moment. Be cautious. Look before you leap. There's no need to risk repeating a painful experience. Take your ex's success as an omen. You know that if it can happen to him quickly, you too will find love. If his new love proves fleeting, don't rejoice or worry about it. The longer you wait the better chance you have for a truly lasting love.

Don't jump into something just to prove yourself. This is not a competition. This is a serious search for a love that will last a lifetime. You do not need to suffer again.

That doesn't mean you should ignore your negative emotions. Release them. Talk to a friend or therapist. Punch a pillow. Wait until you are alone, then call your ex every dirty name in the book. Shout it and scream it. Let all of it go. Let go of all of the pain, hurt, and betrayal. The process may take months, or even years, but you will feel better in time.

That special someone will come, and your divorce will fade into memory. You will no longer harbor hateful feelings toward your ex. You will come to accept your ex for who he is, and wish him well.

About the Author
Christina Rowe is the author of the new book "Seven Secrets To A Successful Divorce-What Every Woman Needs To Know". Find out the survival skills that will save you time, money and heartache during your divorce. For your free chapter of the book go to: http://www.secretsofdivorce.com

A Cheater Checker? New Software Provides an Inexpensive, Sure-Fire Way to Catch Your Cheating Partner

2007-03-14T08:06:00.000-07:00

Cheating is everywhere! Did you know that one in two people in a relationship cheat on their partner. What's worse is that two out of three people being cheated on never find out.

For example, a shy person can communicate or chat with dozens of people online in a given night; but that same person might not ever approach a single person out in the real world - like at a bar, let's say.

Do you feel your partner may be having an affair, but you're not sure?

More people than ever before are using the Internet to cheat on their partner, and experts agree that infidelity rates are on the increase, especially in women.

With online dating sites, social networks, chat forums, email and instant messengers, it is incredibly easy to meet people you would otherwise probably never have contact with. In fact, 9 out of 10 people feel cheating is easier today than ever before due to the Internet, emails and instant messengers.

"One thing to consider," says CEO of Pandora Corporation, Manny Coats, "is that people seem to step outside of themselves when communicating over the computer. In many cases, they are more upfront or a lot bolder than they would ever be in real life." He continues, "For example, a shy person can communicate or chat with dozens of people online in a given night; but that same person might not ever approach a single person out in the real world - like at a bar, let's say."

Because of the avenues and channels the Internet unlocks - not to mention the comfort of anonymity, the use of computers for purposes of carrying out an affair has surged. In fact, almost everyone who is cheating has either used their computer to start the affair or - at the very least - is using the computer to keep in touch with that person.

"It's just too easy to get away with," says Coats. And he's right. People using the PC to cheat are easily covering their tracks by using secret email addresses and deleting browser history. Some go one step further and use various programs and tools that wipeout data to cover up their tracks. They are confident that their wife, husband, or significant other will never find out ...

They didn't count on this!

Cheater Checker is the latest in PC monitoring software, developed with all of the "cheater helper" programs in mind. The program provides a reliable and affordable avenue for those who feel they are being wronged by their partners to find out what's really going on.

Coats explains, "It's like your own private detective that will take snapshots and record everything that your spouse/significant other does on the PC - very much like a TiVo for your PC. No matter how well they think they are coving their tracks - it won't matter. You see exactly what they were seeing .... every screen shot, every email, everything they typed -- nothing escapes Cheater Checker. And to top it all off, you can set the program up to email you the captured information so that you have access to it at any time, no matter where you're at."

The full potential of the software is outlined in this promo video: http://www.cheaterchecker.com/new2/video.php

If you feel your spouse or partner is sneaking around behind your back, and using the PC to do so - Cheater Checker is the solution. Coats remarks, "Our software is pretty straight-forward, very easy to use ... and certainly cheaper than a hired private detective. For less than the cost of a tank of gas, you can get peace of mind by having the truth revealed to you instantly."

More Cheating Stats:

57% of women cheat on their partner ... and this trend is rising

3 out of 4 married men cheat on their wife

1 in 3 people who have chatted online or emailed the opposite sex have turned at least one of those instances into an actual real-life meeting that ended up in sex

1 in 2 people who consider themselves happily married, have also cheated on their spouse

9 out of 10 women who think they are being cheated on, are correct!

A free guide is available at www.CheaterChecker.com that reveals the 29 signs your partner may be cheating.

Note: Available for interviews and comments is the CEO of Pandora Corporation, Manny Coats. Products can be sent for your trial use.

About Cheater Checker: Pandora Corporation was formed with one goal - to help our customers monitor, control and protect their families and themselves online. First released in mid 2005, PC Pandora has been constantly upgraded to industry-leading specifications. The program has received accolades from users, reviewers and even school districts and law enforcement agencies, who use the program to help in the day-to-day supervision of the children and citizens they are charged with protecting.

The recently released Cheater Checker was released with the victims of online cheaters in mind. Now those who are being wronged, or are suspicious that their partner is not being faithful, have an easier way to check on their mates. Check on your cheating partner at www.cheaterchecker.com.

New York, NY (PRWEB) March 14, 2007

5 Things You Shouldn't Do If He's Cheating On You

2007-03-10T18:36:00.000-08:00

This may be the most important article you'll read about dealing with your husband's affair. There's plenty of information available on what to do if your husband is cheating. But very little has been written about the things you shouldn't do.

Your husband is cheating. You're not sure what to do. Before wrestling with that decision, let's focus first on what you SHOULDN'T do. Most women react blindly when they find out their husbands are having an affair. They let fear, anger, hurt, or a desire for revenge compel them to do things they later regret -- things which make it difficult or impossible to implement any worthwhile infidelity advice they may later receive.

This article will keep you from making a mistake that could sabotage the course of action you eventually decide to take. Regardless of whether you decide to leave your husband or stay with him and try to work things out, doing the wrong thing at the outset can make a bad situation worse. Let's look at 5 key things you SHOULDN'T do and examine the reasons why.

1. Don't put him out or leave him - yet.

Instead of your first move, putting your husband out or leaving him should be your last resort. You may eventually decide to do this, but for now, it's the worst thing you can do. Right now you need to keep a close eye on what's going on. It'll be easier to do that if the two of you are still living under the same roof. If you put him out or leave, you'll be hard-pressed to know what he's doing, short of hiring an investigator. As long as you're still together, you can keep your finger on the pulse of his affair and gather some much-needed facts. There's a lot you need to know about the situation before you can make an intelligent decision about what to do. Continue monitoring your husband's activities, attitude, the frequency of his contact with his lover and any other details concerning his affair. Write everything down in a journal for future use. Also bear in mind that as long as he's still there, you have a chance to work things out.

2. Don't tell the whole world about his infidelity.

It's natural to want to confide in somebody about your husband's affair, or rally friends and family to your side. But be very cautious about who you tell. The female friend you confide in could turn out to be the "other woman." Make sure you're confiding in someone you know you can trust. Confiding in a male friend about your husband's affair could complicate the situation. There are men out there who take advantage of women when they're in a vulnerable state. Telling your husband's friends or family may not produce the results you want. They might not take you seriously, or they may lie, make excuses for him, take his side, or warn him to cover his tracks. Confiding in your own family and friends can eventually come back to haunt you. Elephants aren't the only ones who never forget. Some people have a tendency to remember unpleasant events long after they've been resolved. If you and your husband decide to reconcile, they could make things difficult by harboring anger and hostility toward him for what he did to you. Or they may show resentment toward you for taking him back. Exercise caution in who you tell about your husband's affair.

3. Don't ignore his affair or pretend it's not happening.

Going into denial will only make matters worse. As traumatic as it is to find out that your husband has been cheating, you need to face the reality of the situation. Ignoring his infidelity gives him the go-ahead to continue his affair. Pretending it's not happening will make him think he's getting away with his cheating, or give him the impression that he has your silent approval. At some point you should inform your husband that you know about his affair and make it clear that you want it to stop. The sooner you confront him about his cheating, the better. The longer you wait to bring it up and express your disapproval, the more attached he will become to the other woman. And the harder it will be to get your marriage back on track. Remember too, that affairs thrive in secrecy. Sometimes, just telling your husband you know about it, will be enough to put a stop to his affair.

4. Don't confront him without the 3 P's - Proof, a Plan, and a Purpose.

Most experts agree that you should confront your husband about his cheating. But you need to have a plan. Choose the time and place carefully so you can discuss the affair at length without interruption. Do not ask your husband if he's cheating. Cheaters lie. Present the evidence you've gathered that proves he's having an affair - names, dates, places, times, absences, phone calls, physical evidence, etc. Then ask him some pointed questions about his affair: why he did it, how it started, how long it's been going on, how he feels about the other woman, what he intends to do now that you know. Listen carefully to his answers so you can accurately assess the situation. Then you'll be able to make a wise decision about what course of action to take. Do not confront your husband without proof of his infidelity. To do so will be a colossal waste of time. Unless you can prove he's been cheating, the information-gathering phase will never get off the ground. If you need proof, there's a way for you to get it without hiring a detective or buying software or surveillance equipment. "Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs" will help you find all the proof you need using only your eyes and ears, your personal knowledge of your husband, and the information in this book.

5. Don't waste your time and energy on the other woman.

One of the worst things you can do is become obsessed with the other woman. It's natural for you to be curious about her, but she's not worth your time and energy. Repeatedly questioning your husband about her, referring to her or dragging her name into the conversation puts the spotlight on her instead of on the real issues where it belongs. Don't obsess over the details of what happened between the two them. Concentrate on working things out between the two of you. Do not humiliate or frustrate yourself by calling or confronting the other woman and demanding that she leave your husband alone. She's not obligated to take orders from you. Harassing her or threatening her will put you on the wrong side of the law. Name-calling, criticizing or belittling the her will only make your husband come to her defense. You'll be driving them closer together instead of forcing them apart Forget about the other woman and focus your energy and efforts on getting your marriage back on track.

Will you end up sabotaging your marriage or saving it? The final outcome depends on the way you handle things when you first discover your husband's affair. In the initial stages, you may be unsure exactly what you're going to do. But at least you know what NOT to do. Whether you stay with your husband or leave him, avoiding these mistakes, leaves the way clear for whatever decision you eventually make.

Copyright 2003 Ruth Houston

About the Author
Ruth Houston is the author of "Is He Cheating on You?-829 Telltale Signs." To learn more about her book, sign up for her infidelity newsletter, or receive a FREE Infidelity report and list of 29 Telltale Signs, visit her website at http://www.IsHeCheatingOnYou.com or mail to: CheatingSigns@aol.com

Ex Wife's Revenge

2007-03-09T03:40:00.000-08:00

Ultimate Divorce Vacation at Grand Velas Resort in Nuevo Vallarta

2007-03-08T04:51:00.000-08:00

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Nuevo Vallarta, Mexico (PRWEB) March 8, 2007

When Cheating Happens - Is Saying Sorry Enough

2007-03-05T15:27:00.000-08:00

The dictionary defines cheating as: "To violate rules deliberately" and "To act dishonestly; practice fraud." When someone "...violate rules" and "...act dishonestly" people tend to stop trusting the person who caused the violation of trust. Trust is one of the most important aspects of any relationship and a broken trust is hard to mend and certainly never forgotten. While men and women may occasionally glance at someone other than their loved one, most do not act on the impulse of visual stimulation and it remains just a brief moment of looking at someone else. (That doesn't make it right; it's just a natural response to beauty. A brief glance is different than turning around to look JFI.)

Cheating is the worst violation of trust in a relationship and is the cause of many break-ups. Why do people cheat? There are many reasons that are usually given, none of which excuse the dishonest act and erase the memory of it, nor are they valid excuses for lacking in character.

Below are just a few of the reasons someone who cheats may give:

I was bored. It just happened. I was in the wrong place and they were just there. I was drunk. It was a chemical attraction and I couldn't fight it. It was just one time. It didn't mean a thing. It wasn't personal, it was strictly physical.

All of these "reasons" do not excuse the violation and they are an unconvincing justification for breaking a huge trust. There are two schools of thoughts held by people regarding this subject matter. I will call them Type Z and Type L.

Type Z will say things like, 'Hey, it's bad, but all guys cheat and most women think of it even if they don't act on it. Anyone who says they haven't cheated is lying.' This group may tend to think strip clubs, pornography and gawking at another man or woman in the presence of their loved one is okay and it really shouldn't bother their loved one. If it does bother them, then their partner needs to 'just get over it' and that it's their partners' problem, not theirs.

They usually like "Girls Gone Wild" (or videos of that nature) and think nothing of having the entire series for regular viewing. They are not generally close to their family or have many close friends.

That is not to say they don't love their family or interact with them or that they don't have a bunch of superficial friends who generally speaking hold the same views as they do. While Type Z may brag about being great in bed, they often hold a higher opinion of their skills than their partner does.

Then there is Type L. They say, 'Cheating is wrong and not all men or women cheat or even think of cheating.' This group usually has stable relationships and is close to their family. Their friends are close knit and invest quality time together whenever possible Type L tend to enjoy movies that do not have a lot of graphic sex scenes in them and they are generally great care givers in bed. Do you see the pattern?

The most common mistake that men or women make once they find out their partner has cheated, is to ignore the situation or pass it off as "it wasn't a personal thing." While the cheating partner may believe it wasn't personal, it becomes personal because it deeply affects the non-cheating partner.

Additionally, the cheating partner has exposed their "loved one" to life threatening diseases such as AIDS. When you love someone would you risk their life by exposing them to dangerous sexually transmitted diseases? Some of these diseases can be rampant, going without detection. One such STD is the Human Papillomavirus, more commonly known as "genital warts."

The U.S. Dept of Health stated the following: "Human Papillomavirus (HPV) is one of the most common causes of sexually transmitted infection (STI) in the world...Many people infected with HPV have no symptoms. High-risk HPV may cause abnormal Pap smear results, and could lead to cancers of the cervix, vulva, vagina, anus, or penis."

Men and women that cheat have serious issues of insecurity they must address and tend to be adrenaline junkies in constant need for excitement. If you have found out your partner is or has cheated, several things need to be done and addressed immediately.

The first is for your health concerns; you will need to be tested for various forms of STD including AIDS. Check with your health care professional about the frequency. Just because a condom may have been used, does not mean you are completely safe. If your partner says to you, "The other person is safe" don't trust it! They have already lied to you and cheated, why would you trust them with your safety?

After you have been tested, seek out counseling, whether or not you are going to stay with the offender. Your counselor will be able to help you determine whether or not, "I'm sorry" will keep your relationship in tact.

While you may forgive your partner, sadly you will never forget what they did. If you decide to stay together, you will need to address this issue in counseling. It is imperative that you do to help avoid the "cheating" word being thrown about in future heated moments or bursts of anger.

Many people believe, once a cheater, always a cheater, but that is something you'll need to decide on your own. Here is something for you to think about: If a relationship has cheating in it, where will it end up? Many end up in the trash or divorce court. One of the worst mistakes the non-cheating partner can do is to blame themselves. You are not responsible for the other person's actions or 'indiscretions.' That is why counseling or seeking wise counsel is important.

If you feel your partner has cheated the best thing to do is ask. If you've spent some time with your partner you may be able to read the signs right away. Don't assume someone is cheating, because there may be other things going on in their life that have them distracted.

However, don't wait to ask if you have a nagging suspicion or it will eat you up inside and will eventually lead to hostility aimed at your partner. Ask now and then if you don't feel you have gotten an honest answer, you might want to look into other methods that might help you get to the truth. Sadly, if a person has a predilection for cheating there is nothing the non-cheating person can do to stop them. It's a choice they must make for themselves.

A stable, happy relationship is what most people seek out, but they don't come easily or without work. One of the keys to happy relationship in the future is to learn about each other and develop deep communication skills. This will take practice, learning together and investing time on a regular basis with each other. Another key? Laughing together

Side note: The National Opinion Research Center at the University of Chicago published a survey in 2002 that stated 22 percent of men cheat. One more thing to think about; someone caught stealing is rarely sorry because they stole, they are only sorry because they were caught.

About the Author
Jaci Rae is a #1 Best Selling author of Winning Points with the Woman in Your Life One Touchdown at a Time. Book Jaci for your next show: and hit contact button for her publicist.

Break-up Excuses For Sale

2007-03-05T09:52:00.000-08:00

So what excuses have you heard from your cheating partner?

If you lived in China, you could pretty well be hearing a paid break-up excuse from a little know shop called Toufu. They sell common excuses for marriage and relationship break-ups starting at $200US. Discounts are available if more than one excuse are purchased at one time.

A spokesman said: "Our break-up excuses can minimise suffering, and we can even make up excuses for people who want to date in secret without arousing the suspicions of their mates." - PR-inside.com

They can only guarantee the excuse will be well-received, but not that it would work.

Infidelity Help For a Cheating Spouse

2007-02-28T00:35:00.000-08:00

Whether you call it cheating, unfaithfulness, adultery, an affair, or marital infidelity, it causes devastating pain and major crises in marriages. Surprisingly, half of marriages survive infidelity and some even get better. Infidelity spurs 50% of couples who experience it to reassess their marriages and make changes, often with the help of counselors. About 15% of wives and 25% of husbands admit to cheating, while over 60% of relationships may have a cheating spouse during the course of a marriage.

Causes of Infidelity

The causes of infidelity are numerous and can be simple or complicated. Affairs occur in both happy and unhappy marriages. Usually, both spouses are responsible for the situation. The causes of infidelity include: a mid-life or pre-midlife crisis, low self-esteem, lack of love and attention given to a spouse, anger, boredom, marrying too young, peer pressure, the existence of an opportunity, disappointment in the marriage, sex addiction, as a way to leave the marriage, and even family expectations!

Types of Affairs

Sometimes adultery is due to an addiction to sex or romance. A new relationship provides passion, excitement, danger, sexual highs, romance, and either greater self-esteem or shame.

Some affairs are due to men who believe that extramarital relationships are something they are entitled to by gender. There is little or no guilt felt by these husbands and their birth families sometimes condone their behavior. There may be peer pressure as well.

Other unfaithful spouses are driven by mid-life crisis (i.e.; fear of aging), anger toward the spouse for real or imagined wrongs, boredom, or disappointment in the marriage or the problems of living. These affairs often happen only if an opportunity presents itself.

The newest type of infidelity is one in which the participants weren't searching for an affair, but got involved in a friendship at work or on the Internet that turned into an affair. This type of relationship includes emotional intimacy, secrecy and lying, and sexual feelings and actions. There may be peer (societal) pressure to participate in this type of affair as well.

The most serious type of affair is the one in which a married partner falls in love with someone outside the marriage, either unwittingly or as an excuse for leaving. This type of infidelity causes the most destruction of marriages.

Consequences of Infidelity

The consequences of infidelity include: divorce, depression, loss of trust, persistent anxiety, and an overwhelming feeling of loss. Many innocent spouses experience symptoms similar to post-traumatic stress disorder. Consequences of infidelity may also encompass obsessive thoughts about the details of the infidelity, suspiciously watching for indications of infidelity, "fight or flight" symptoms, anger and accusations, and flashbacks.

Results of Infidelity

After infidelity occurs, the partners must decide whether to save the marriage or separate and divorce. Each spouse may want a different outcome. Counselors and psychologists will work with couples to assist them in making a decision and implementing it. Negative emotions and symptoms must be addressed and a "safety zone" established. An atmosphere of honesty must be established with the spouse, while all contact with the partner in the affair must be stopped. The story of the affair must be told and its impact on the marriage addressed. Planning for the future of the marriage leads to healing, and, hopefully, forgiveness. Failing that, a divorce will take place.

If a marriage survives infidelity, it will become stronger and centered on the couple, not just on children; the dangers and temptations of infidelity are understood and addressed in order to avoid it; and the couple develops trust, renewed commitment, and shared responsibility for the ongoing success of the marriage.

About the Author
Edward Talurdey is a leading infidelity expert who has been featured on numerous popular radio programs. If you suspect infidelity in your relationship, you can discover the secrets over 25,768 other people have used to quickly find the truth at http://www.catchacheat.com

Is There a Seven Year Itch?

2007-02-20T22:56:00.000-08:00

When it comes to relationships there is a common concept that there comes a point in terms of time when both individuals start to wonder what they are doing in the relationship. This is a difficult time for both of the people as individually, and especially for the two of them as a couple; fights break out incessantly and the temptation to cheat becomes a major player. This period of the relationship is commonly known in relationship-lore as the seven-year itch.

This is in fact a real phenomenon, although it affects every person and every couple differently and to different extents. Also, the "seven-year" designation isn't terribly scientific, but it's on-the-mark more often than you might expect. Another factor that will be specific to the couple involved is the time period. In fact, five years is probably a little more accurate, with the "itch" occurring most commonly between the fifth and seventh year of a given relationship -- sometimes lasting the two years in between.

Why is there an itch in the first place?

The itch may occur for a few different reasons. The first reason would simply be our biological makeup as Homo-Sapiens. We are naturally given to change, and so long times spent in one particular situation will make us curious as to how things could be different. Also, and despite our best efforts, we're still subject to the instincts and urges all animals experience, though we have the means to combat those urges with our brain-power.

A high comfort level within the relationship can, believe it or not, also contribute to the itch's occurance. Comfort can sometimes lead to a feeling of the mundane; what used to be exciting has now become predictable. Throw into the mix the fact that most couples have experienced some major shifts in their lives in the first five years of a relationship (career beginnings, promotions, the purchase of a home, the arrival of one or more babies) and you can see how the focus may be shifted away from maintaining the relationship.

Overcoming the itch

This is a difficult time for any couple, because there are always thoughts about what could have been. Both parties are going to under a lot of stress.

The most important strategy in overcoming the itch is to communicate as a couple. Don't shut down, and don't stop sharing due to fear of a fight. A lot of couples will find that counseling is useful at this point in their relationship.

If you do go for counseling, be ready to accept that it is a process. Most counselors are not able to find a magic solution right away, and the sessions can be difficult for both individuals. Try not to let what is said in front of the counselor spill over after the session. A lot of couples will find that they are united through their interaction with the counselor; smiling a lot and reflecting on past good times can help to overcome the feelings of alienation from each other that the itch brings on.

Going through a rough patch in a relationship is typical. In fact, it is so common that the worst spots have actually been labeled. If you are committed to your relationship, it is important to talk through the period known as the seven year itch and be prepared to hang in as long as it takes.

About the Author
Alex Daniels consults for an online gift shop offering groomsmen "gifts for him" as well as unique wedding favors. Alex is recently married.

Women in Love and Relationships - How to Let Go

2007-02-20T02:24:00.000-08:00

When you love someone and the relationship has to end in any reason that hurt you both, it has to end right at that moment and you have to accept it and let go. You don't have to ask questions why it happened; you don't have to look for answers because you will see none. Things could get ugly if you insist looking for it. Don't try to change the course of fate, if it's meant to end then it has to end and let go.

Respect whatever he thinks about you, no need to talk or settle things with him, it only makes you so cheap and get hurt more. Parting ways is painful but you have to take it. Don't try to end it well if there's no future to end it well. Just take the situation as it is and let go. You cannot patch the holes and loopholes that happened to both of you. There will always be grudges, blaming and comparison with each other. It's the way it is; its how letting go is. There could never be a nicer way to do it, but to let go and accept it. If you are a person who wants to end everything in a nice way, this is not the time, only time could tell if all wounds have healed, things will fall in their right places at the right time. As the old adage goes "Time will heal all wounds" as old as it is, it is still true even to this time.

Another thing about ending a relationship, there should be no regrets for what has happened, accept it and try to let go and free your self. No matter what you did even if it brought you pains, there should be no regrets because after all you have loved the person. Be glad if you were given a chance to say it and be able to free your self. Yes, letting go is painful but it gives a sense of freedom, knowing you've said it "no regrets" and you've been true to yourself regardless of what happened and what he feels for you. He may have regrets and hate you but you have to respect that, it is his right.

When it comes to relationships, it doesn't matter who is right or who is wrong. Yes, you will go through the process of fighting for your rights because you think you are right but at the end it really doesn't matter. Relationship lasts because it's meant to last, it will end if it's not meant to last and you have to let go.

Don't do stupid things, you cannot win him back. You cannot get his sympathy. If he doesn't feel for you, no matter how hard you try he will not care. Don't compromise who you really are regardless of the situation and the pain you are into. Sometimes pain can push you to do something which is not within your values, try hard to keep your sanity and learn to let go. Nothing good will come out of it that's why its' called stupid. Yes, he hurt you in every possible situation, but it's not enough reason to trade for who you really are. You have to get a good grip of who you are and your values, because I tell you in this stage you will need every good traits you have if you are dealing with so much pain. If you don't let go, pains could deceive you and could push you to do things you are not suppose to do. Always think that if you let go and succeed to endure the pains, you will come out a better person and looking back you know you haven't done anything bad to anybody. That's why it's good to end the relationship at once if it needs to end and don't cling on it, you have to let it go.

When it comes to cheating, try not to blame yourself and learn to let go. You want answers why you've been cheated because you have this insecurity of being replaced, but the truth is, there is no answer. Even in the best of relationships "forever" is rare. When you accept to love someone you have to accept too that you will get hurt. It's not your fault that he cheated you, cheating is a human nature especially with males who cannot take a good grip of their faithfulness when faced with lust. But men with a good grip of their character and values will find themselves shy away from it because their love for someone is greater than their lust and that's what separate boys from men. Boys' cheats but men don't. You can be 45 but still a boy and you can be 18 but can be called a man. Character and not age makes a man.

In getting hurt, women usually think, they are the ones who are always greatly hurt in most of the relationships they have. I often wonder how men appear so cold and make it looks like everything is easy even with heartaches, but I guess men and women always have different ways of dealing with heartaches. But hurt or pains has nothing to do with gender, its about love, those who love the most, cry the most and get hurt the most. Don't be sorry that you cry the most or get hurt the most, be glad that that you were able to give most of the love in your relationship. If you love someone accept that you will get hurt too. And when it's time to let go, just accept it and be glad that you have loved with all your heart.

Lovers to friends - don't put too much effort in it. It rarely happens; it's one in a million. If yours is that one in a million, it will still not happen right away, it needs time. If lovers have a good foundation of friendship before they became lovers and the friendship becomes cloudy because of too much hurt and unusual happenings, after the rain and the clouds are all clear, the sun will shine and if there is really a solid friendship, maybe it could happen-lovers to friends, but don't count on it as I said it rarely happens.

When it's time to let go, give yourself time to heal, cry if you need to, and grieve if you have to. It's the process of healing, but don't stop there, get a life it's not the end of the world. Yes life is tough, but you have to embrace it, live it because it's your life. It may not be a beautiful life but you have to own it, it's yours and you can make it beautiful. Besides, God will not give you things you cannot handle, if He has faith in you that you can handle the life handed to you, you have to have some faith in yourself too that you can get through tough times. Let go, set him free, set your self free and move on. If he is really meant for you, time will tell and your paths will meet again.

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About the Author
Gerry Restrivera writes informative articles on various subjects including Love and Relationships

Catching a Liar by Interpreting Body Language

2007-02-17T13:48:00.000-08:00

Reading body language to know if a person is lying applies not just to ordinary people but even to professionals, as well. The police use it to determine if the person is guilty of a certain wrongdoing or not, teachers employ it to find out if the child really has or hasn't done his or her homework and parents apply it to find out if their teenagers really did go to a group study session as they said they would.

In the past, it seemed like reading body language to judge guilt may not have been in effect, at least in some cultures. Tribal groups of centuries back used to figure out if a native committed a crime using pain tests, such as dipping a hand in boiling water, walking on fiery coals, and others.

For instance, a native whose hand came out scalded after a dip in hot water is considered guilty at the time. Luckily, no such judging process exists anymore and we have the chance to disprove allegations by appearing in court and giving our statements. However, it may not be easy either, because it requires knowledge of reading body language.

How can you tell if the other person is lying through his teeth? There are several ways to tell. One is when the other person is unable to look you in the eye as he tells his lie. Thus, if you ask your partner if he has been cheating on you, you will know that something is amiss if he says he hasn't but looks elsewhere while he says so.

Of course, there are people who have perfected the art of lying that the eye test does not always work. Other indicators of lying include restless hands (that is, he keeps touching his face, his arms, fixing his clothes, or tinkering with something), ill timing of gestures (that is, his body language seems to be off-kilter and awkward), or increased defensiveness. A person who has been accused of lying gets rather anxious as he tries to disprove the allegation.

Here's another way you can also tell if the person is lying. When you suddenly shift to another topic, he also shifts to a more comfortable and relaxed state. A person who lies will want to avoid talking about the tense subject as much as possible, so he will most definitely try to stay at the lighter topic and try to expand on that so that you will forget about the original issue.

Most people have lied one way or another in their life. In fact, lying has become part of human nature. Sometimes we have to tell lies in order to avoid hurting somebody else. As the saying goes, what the person doesn't know won't hurt him. However, if discovering the truth is what you're after, then these tips mentioned here will help you find out if you're being duped or not.

About the Author
Michael Lee is the author of How to be a Red Hot Persuasion Wizard... in 20 days or less, an ebook that reveals mind-altering persuasion techniques. Get a sample chapter and highly-stimulating "Get What You Want" advice at http://www.20daypersuasion.com/. He is the Co-Founder of http://www.self-improvement-millionaires.com and is licensed as a Certified Public Accountant.

Online Infidelity - Is Your Partner Having A Cyber Affair?

2007-02-15T22:05:00.000-08:00

With the increasing use of the internet comes the risk of online infidelity which can lead to marital problems and can even cause a marriage to break down. These have become known as cyber-affairs.

Many people can become addicted to online chat rooms where they can indulge in sexually explicit chat in real-time with total strangers. A climate of permissiveness pervades many of these chat rooms and instant messages sent privately between two people allow them to engage in erotic chats without the risk of being caught by their spouse. Webcams can be viewed, voice chat can be turned on instead of typing in text, and pictures and files of a sexual or personal nature can be transferred secretly by linking peer-to-peer.

The anonymity provided by chat rooms allows users to share their intimate feelings without feeling embarrassed. Initial chat conversations may be fairly innocent but when someone gets a sympathetic response from a fellow chatter this can turn into a deep emotional attachment to them. The messages often then become intensely personal and can develop into a cyber affair. This is a form of adultery and it can develop into a full-blown affair with secret phone calls and even clandestine meetings. Even if it stays on a non-physical plane it can still be devastating for a wife or husband to discover that his partner has been indulging in emotional infidelity with someone she doesn't really know.

A wife or husband may believe that it is all harmless escapism and they are doing nothing wrong but their spouse will feel a deep sense of betrayal knowing that their spouse has been discussing intimate details with a virtual stranger.

Why do people have cyber affairs?

Studies have shown that it is a form of emotional escape into an online fantasy world to escape the problems and realities of everyday life. Anyone can assume an online persona which is totally unlike their real one. A neglected wife can have her pick of cyber partners who fall for her onscreen sexy persona and who are assuming a persona themselves as a hot lover. Usually the reality is quite different as the hot lovers may be husbands themselves who are also indulging in their own little fantasy world.

If you suspect a cyber affair then ask yourself these questions.

a) Is your partner's main interest chat rooms? b) Does your partner stay up late on the computer while you are alone in bed? c) Do they want to be left alone while they are on the computer? d) Do they act secretive if you enter the room whilst they are on the computer? e) Do they get irritated when you question the amount of time they are spending on the computer? f) Do they spend more time on the computer than with you or the family? g) Do you feel that they are neglecting the household?

If the answer to most of these questions is yes then your partner may be having a cyber-affair.

About the Author
Anthony Bradley is a writer for Save Your Marriage which has many more articles on the subject of marriage which you can read right here.

The Infidelity Survival Guide For Men

2007-02-14T11:52:00.000-08:00

Having a woman cheat on you is pretty brutal. Now the biggest problem men have here is that they put all of the blame on themselves. They wonder what they did wrong, and - of course - there's value in that. You may have made a mistake. But still that woman has a mind of her own. She doesn't just react and you can't control her behavior. So you might have to deal with the startling but painful picture that she just cheated on you and that it was her fault. After all she was unfaithful, not you. For me, infidelity is a breakup reason.

There are many men who whine and moan about what it was that they did wrong, and they almost excuse to her for making her cheat on them. It's understandable to some degree because they are hurt and they want her back or at least want to understand. That's one reason you've searched for the infidelity survival guide for men in the first place, right?

But think about it: She cheated on you. Is she really the person you've thought she was? Is that the person you fell in love with or does that person only exist inside your head? What I recommend is a clear cut. She's not the person you love, she cheated on you, she misused your trust, she's hurt you. Why on earth would you want to stay with that person. That act invalidated all the nice memories you are punishing yourself with all the time, thinking about how wonderful it was and why it can't be that way anymore.

It hurts, no doubt about that. But kick her off a throne she doesn't deserve. She's a cheater and she deserves contempt if anything. You should focus your anger on yourself but on her. Now by all means don't get violent. But stop beating yourself up and stop punishing yourself with a wrong image of her. Obviously it was fake. This is one of the main points of this infidelity survival guide for men.

Now the longer you've been in a relationship with that person, the more it hurts. You have more memories of her and everything you see reminds yourself of her. What I recommend is that you move on and find a trustful person. They are out there.

One way to get out of the state of needing her above everything else even after breakup is to meet other women as fast as possible. That way you're convinced that there are more fish in the sea and that you don't really need her, who cheated on you anyways. You can find someone better. Don't lose yourself in all that pain and hurt. Fight for the good life that can be yours. You certainly don't need a cheating woman for that.

After quite some time of being in a relationship you may have problems meeting other women. I'm not sure if you're in the mood right now, but you can sign up to my newsletter that will help you meet more women so you can choose a faithful one this time.  I hope the infidelity survival guide for men was helpful.

Whatever you do, all the luck in your further life,

Kevin.

About the Author
Kevin Jackson runs a free course on seduction, dating and female attraction. To get the course, just click here: www.freeseductionnewsletter.com

Forgiveness For Committing Adultery

2007-02-13T15:06:00.000-08:00

Very few people get through life without having been hurt by a friend, a partner or a member of their family. In fact it is almost impossible to avoid the inevitable thoughtless remark, the misunderstandings, the disregard for people's feelings and general disagreements, but some things are far harder to recover from than most with infidelity being near the top of the list. Many of us get hurt by the smaller things, even from the unintentional and forgiveness for such indiscretions is usually quite swift but forgiveness for committing adultery isn't so easy.

Surviving infidelity is one of the hardest things anyone has to do and the sheer thought of actually offering 'forgiveness for committing adultery' is in complete opposition to the hurt and the pain and the immense hatred of the cheating spouse.

It is so easy to stay angry, to get wound up in those early feelings of betrayal and to hold on to the pain but the easiest way of surviving infidelity is to move on and learning to forgive your partner is a way to heal.

In offering forgiveness for committing adultery your partner's behaviour can no longer cause you anger, you can let go of the hurt, the pain and the feelings of betrayal and start moving on with your life.

Anger is destructive, an emotion that can eat you up and destroy your life, learning to forgive and let go is a way to help you and not an easy way out for your partner. Forgiveness enables you to let go of all those feelings, it doesn't mean you won't ever remember what has happened, won't remember the pain, it isn't about the difference between right and wrong or that you are accepting the behaviour of your partner. It's about healing your self, learning from the experience, dealing with it and in so doing enabling you to move on.

In learning to forgive your partner for committing adultery you are not in any way indicating that your relationship can continue, you are not saying that their behaviour was acceptable and you are not saying that you are prepared to carry on the way things are. In forgiveness for committing adultery comes the ability to make the choice, decide whether you want to try and save your marriage or move on with your life without your cheating spouse.

It is often easier not to have to think about the future, about how you are going to recover from infidelity but as time goes by those feelings of hurt and betrayal will become harder to bear. It is easier to try and forget, try and not have to deal with reality but at some point you have to stop, start thinking about the situation, try and see it from your partner's point of view, try and understand what happened, why it happened and where you go from here.

Blame is not the answer, you can't blame your partner or yourself, you have to look beyond the blame, beyond the mixed up emotions and start taking control of your life. Try and understand that we are all human and that we all make mistakes but unfortunately some mistakes are greater than others. Not everything we do is intentional, some things just happen, not an excuse but a fact.

Look at your relationship, think about how things were in the past and decide if it's worth fighting for. Look at the positives, remember all the things you used to do together which you enjoyed, would going back to basics, starting again enable you to save your marriage. Consider what part you had to play in the indiscretion, was there a problem with your relationship that neither of you, had tried to, or been able to fix, were things at home just not working well, was there something you could have both done that much better. Quite often infidelity is as a result of marriage problems, not always but often. Again it is no excuse for the actions of your partner, their responsibilities lay in making you aware of how bad things were and not just jumping into some one else's bed but it might help you understand why and help you move ever closer to forgiveness 'for committing adultery' and start the healing process.

About the Author
For more advice on infidelity and other marriage problems please visit my websites: Save your Marriage, Common Marriage Problems

Quiz Identifies Workplace Friendships Which Could Become Workplace Romance

2007-02-13T10:40:00.000-08:00

In less than 2 weeks, workplace romance and office affairs have become the focus of much attention because of two major stories in the news. The arrest of NASA Astronaut Lisa Nowak for attempted kidnapping and murder of a perceived rival for the affections of fellow astronaut, and the San Francisco Mayor Gavin Newsom's public apology for having an affair with his campaign manager's wife show the problems that can result from office romance and workplace affairs.

"A workplace friendship with someone of the opposite sex can easily become a workplace romance." says infidelity expert Ruth Houston, founder of www.InfidelityAdvice.com Houston, author of Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs cautions, "Anytime workmates of the opposite sex work in close proximity on a regular basis for extended periods of time, the potential for workplace romance or office affairs exists.

But how can someone tell if their opposite sex friendship with a co-worker is in the danger zone? To help identify workplace friendships dangerously close to becoming a workplace romance, infidelity expert Ruth Houston has designed the Workplace Romance Quiz which appears below.

The Workplace Romance Quiz

1. Are you concealing information about your workplace friendship from your spouse or significant other?

2. Do you confide in your workplace friend now instead of your spouse?

3. Do you find yourself turning to your workplace friend for emotional support?

4. Is your workplace friend more fun to be with than your spouse?

5. Do you complain to your workplace friend about your spouse or your marriage?

6. Do you devote more time, attention or energy to your workplace friend than you devote to your spouse?

7. Do you concoct reasons or create excuses to be with your workplace friend?

8. Do you miss your workplace friend when you're not together?

9. Do you find your workplace friend sexually attractive?

10. Do you use your workplace friend as a sounding board for your personal problems?

11. Would you act differently toward your workplace friend if your spouse were present?

12. Do you fantasize about your workplace friend ?

13. Would your spouse be upset to see how you interact with workplace friend?

14. Would you be uncomfortable with the situation if your spouse had a similar workplace friendship with someone of the opposite sex?

SCORING: Count the total number of yes answers.

1 - 4 This is a relatively harmless workplace friendship unless both
questions 1 and 9 were answered yes. That automatically puts this friendship in the danger zone.

5 - 8 This is workplace friendship that is dangerously close to becoming a workplace affair. If both 1 and 9 were answered yes, it's already there.

9 - 14 This is a workplace friendship which has already advanced to the level of a workplace affair. As such, it poses a VERY serious threat to the marriage or relationship of the individuals involved.

Copyright 2007 Ruth Houston, founder of InfidelityAdvice.com

Those concerned about their (or their partner's ) workplace friendship and want to know what to do, should request Houston's free tip sheet entitled " How to Keep a Workplace Friendship from Becoming a Workplace Romance." E-mail InfidelityAdvice@gmail.com with "Workplace Romance Tip Sheet-p" in the subject line.

For more information about workplace romance and office affairs, visit http://www.InfidelityAdvice.com

About Ruth Houston
Infidelity expert Ruth Houston is the founder of Infidelity Advice.com and the author of Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs, which documents practically every known sign of infidelity. Frequently called on by the media to comment on infidelity issues in the news, Ruth has been quoted in the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, the Los Angeles Times, Cosmopolitan, the New York Post, the Chicago Tribune, the San Francisco Chronicle, the National Post, Macleans, iVillage, MSN Lifestyle, UPI, Reuters, Agence France-Presse and numerous other print and online media. Ruth has appeared as a guest on The Today Show, Good Day New York, 1010WINS, CNN, CN8, BBC, CBC, Ireland's Late Late Show and over 320 other radio and TV talk shows worldwide. For more information about workplace romance and office affairs, visit http://www.InfidelityAdvice.com

(PRWEB) February 13, 2007

9 Signs of Infidelity that Typically Appear After Valentine's Day

2007-02-13T10:30:00.000-08:00

"There are several signs of infidelity that typically appear AFTER Valentine's Day, which can confirm the existence of an extramarital affair," says infidelity expert Ruth Houston, founder of www.InfidelityAdvice.com and author of "Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs. "But knowing what to look for is the key."

Houston advises anyone who suspects a spouse or significant other of cheating to be alert for the following post-Valentine's Day telltale signs of infidelity:

A hidden gift discovered before Valentine's Day that has disappeared but wasn't given to you

Receipts for the purchase of 2 identical gifts.

Receipts or credit card statements for candy, flowers, jewelry, lingerie you didn't personally receive.

Receipts or charge slips for gifts that don't correspond with the gift he gave you.

A thank you note or e-mail to or from your spouse for a Valentine's Day gift you know nothing about.

Gifts of a personal nature, like jewelry or lingerie, that suddenly appear after Valentine's Day, which she attempts to pass off as items she purchased for herself. ( Ask to see the sales receipt.)

Restaurant receipts or charge slips dated February 13, 14, 15 for meals that didn't include you.

Credit card receipts for a hotel stay dated the day before, the day after, or on Valentine's Day.

Telephone or cell phone bills showing suspicious calls made early morning or late evening or at lunchtime on Valentine's Day.

copyright 2007 Ruth Houston, founder of InfidelityAdvice.com

"Signs of infidelity seldom appear in isolation." warns Houston. "If your spouse or significant other is cheating, there will be scores of corroborating signs. Where there's one sign, there are plenty of others just waiting to be found. Since many of the signs are subtle and easy to overlook, knowing what to look for is the key."

Other Signs of Infidelity
Houston's book, Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs (Lifestyle Publications, $29.95) covers practically every known sign of infidelity, including the subtle signs people usually overlook. Despite the title, most of the signs in Houston's book apply to cheating women, as well as cheating men. However the e-book version of Is He Cheating on You? sold at http://www.booklocker.com/books/1755.html has a special section for men with cheating wives or girlfriends, entitled Is She Cheating.

Knowing What to Look for is the Key
The signs of infidelity covered in Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs are conveniently grouped into 21 major categories so a suspicious spouse or significant other can easily locate the signs that apply to his or her mate. Each category consists of from 19 to 92 specific telltale signs. Houston says" If your mate is really cheating, you'll find multiple signs from several of those 21 categories all at once. But I can't stress strongly enough that knowing what to look for is the key."

Houston offers a free Tip Sheet which describes in detail each of the 21 Major Categories of Infidelity Signs. You can request a copy by sending an e-mail to InfidelityInfo @ gmail.com with "The 21 categories-p" in the subject line.

For more practical advice on Valentine's Day cheaters or signs of infidelity, visit www.InfidelityAdvice.com

About Ruth Houston:
Infidelity expert Ruth Houston is the founder of Infidelity Advice.com and the author of Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs, which documents practically every known sign of infidelity. Frequently called on by the media to comment on infidelity issues in the news, Ruth has been quoted in the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, the Los Angeles Times, Cosmopolitan, the New York Post, the Chicago Tribune, the San Francisco Chronicle, the National Post, Macleans, iVillage, MSN Lifestyle, UPI, Reuters, Agence France-Presse and numerous other print and online media. Ruth has appeared as a guest on The Today Show, Good Day New York, 1010WINS, CNN, CN8, BBC, CBC, Ireland's Late Late Show and over 320 other radio and TV talk shows worldwide. For more information about workplace romance and office affairs, visit http://www.InfidelityAdvice.com

(PRWEB) February 13, 2007

Astronaut Jealousy Love Triangle Reveals Just How Big The Problem of Jealousy and Jealous Behaviour Truly Is For Many Couples

2007-02-08T10:55:00.000-08:00

Chillicothe, Ohio (PRWEB) February 8, 2007 -- Bizarre conduct, such as what Astronaut Lisa Nowak is accused of, happens in relationships and marriages much more than you might think. With a divorce rate of 50% and higher in the USA and many other countries, many people are left wondering "Why?" In most relationships and marriages, "Sex, Money and Communication" are typically thought of as the big reasons why couples fight, argue and even break up. While these issues continue to be challenges for many couples, jealousy and the jealous behavior by one or more of the partners is quickly emerging as one of the big sticking points in many relationships and marriages.

I'm afraid you're going to leave me
In fact, according to Relationship Coaches Susie & Otto Collins, there are several reasons why this is happening and here are a few:

1. Most couples are busier than ever, and are trying to "do it all." They put their relationship on the "back burner" and don't take the time to connect and communicate with each other.

2. More time is spent at work with co-workers than with a spouse and this is causing mistrust and misunderstandings between couples.

3. Many people are buying into unhealthy expectations and beliefs about relationships such as "You should know what I'm thinking or feeling without me telling you," "I'm afraid you're going to leave me," or "You'll always be there."

Jealousy has become a huge problem that can cripple a relationship between two people who otherwise love or care abut each other deeply.

What's the solution? According to the Collins' there are some ways to heal jealousy…

1. Jealous feelings result from real or imagined fears that the relationship will be taken away. The first thing is to determine whether the fears result from real or imagined events.

2. When triggered by jealousy, breathe and keep focused on what's truly happening in situations. Don't listen to the stories that are made up in your mind.

3. Create a plan for healing jealousy. If there's truth to your suspicions, deal with that truth in a straightforward way. If there's no truth and nothing currently "causing" jealous behavior, decide to heal it and take steps to change. Jealousy can be healed. It just takes courage, commitment and learning some new skills.

Because this is such a big problem, Susie and Otto Collins also offer a free online audio and lessons for overcoming jealousy that has been helpful to thousands of individuals and couples dealing with jealous issues from their web site at http://www.NoMoreJealousy.com For interviews, call Susie and Otto Collins 740-772-2279.

How To Catch My Cheating Wife

2007-02-06T21:31:00.000-08:00

If you are asking yourself, "How do I catch my cheating wife" you may be getting ahead of yourself. If you have solid proof that your wife is already involved in an affair then you don't need to read any farther. If you are at a point in your marriage where you have that terrible feeling deep down inside that your wife is cheating then it may be time to start looking for the signs of infidelity. If the signs are there then it is time to find out the truth so that the emotional turmoil not knowing can be put to rest.

For many men dealing with a wife's infidelity can be something they don't initially want to deal with. The emotional impact can be more than you want to handle and any decisions made to deal with the betrayal are entirely personal. Advice will come from any number of people including friends, family and coworkers but in the end only you know your true feelings on the issue and how best to deal with it.

If you truly believe your wife may be cheating on you it is good to know the many tell tale signs to look for. Once you have established that things have changed then you can take the next step of getting the evidence needed and catch your cheating wife. Here are some of the signs to look for if you suspect your wife of having an affair.

*Diminished sense of intimacy - If you get that sense that your wife just isn't interested in you then you may have a problem. This extends beyond the bedroom and into everyday life. If you used to have a sharing wife who talked to you about everything and shared intimate details about herself but she has suddenly seemed to distance herself from these intimate conversations then there may be reason to suspect her. When it comes to sexual intimacy this can play out two ways. She may no longer show any desire to be intimate with you or she may suddenly start a whole new sexual repertoire and a desire to try things she never wanted to do before. If this is something you have talked about, this new sexual gymnastics then this is probably not a problem, but if it just starts out of the blue it could be a sign that she is learning new things from someone else.

* A decrease in arguments - When the intimacy goes you may also notice a change in what sets her off. Things that normally used to make her mad may no longer bring out her anger. This can be seen as a sign that she isn't much interested in what you are doing, even if it's something that would usually make her mad.

* Changes in dress and appearance - If your normally conservative wife suddenly starts to dress more provocatively or makes a drastic change in her physical appearance with a new haircut and spending more time putting on her make up before she leaves for the day it may be more than her just wanting to look good. This is particularly true if you compliment her on her new look but she just brushes you off.

* Less interest in friends and family - If she starts spending less time with you and the kids for other activities that she attends alone you may need to start doing some investigating. This is also true if she isn't as active with her usual circle of friends and family members.

* Kid's behavior changes - Kids are extremely perceptive creatures and even though they may not say anything sudden changes in the way the react around their mom could have some meaning. They may not know exactly what is going on but they will react to changes in her behavior as well.

Dealing with a cheating wife is something no man wants to have to go through. Once the signs of cheating become evident it is up to you to decide how to answer your original question, "How to catch my cheating wife?"

About the Author - Andrew Bicknell

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New Book Dares To Ask: Can Jealousy Be a Path to Unconditional Love?

2007-01-30T15:25:00.000-08:00

San Rafael, CA (PRWEB) January 30, 2007 -- Many of us have struggled to come to terms with jealousy over the years. Avoidance strategies vary widely from strict monogamy to maintaining "emotional insurance" through multiple relationships. Deborah Anapol, Ph.D. is proposing a novel concept: What if rather than being something to be avoided, jealousy is to be welcomed as a way to illuminate the subtle ways our ego insinuates itself into our spiritual endeavors, revealing powerful opportunities for personal evolution? Her new eBook, Compersion: Using Jealousy as a Path to Unconditional Love, offers a series of brief, inspirational thoughts on how to transcend jealousy. To view an excerpt, visit http://www.lovewithoutlimits.com/articles.html.

Compersion is a made up word which means the opposite of jealousy. Many people have told me this work has been a lifesaver! It's guaranteed to raise your consciousness and give you a new perspective. Good medicine!

Dr. Anapol explains, "The book grew out of my own experiences and those of many clients and workshop participants over the years processing their jealousy. It consists of a collection of one-page meditations. These meditations are intended to challenge and restructure common beliefs about the nature of love and relationship. This process of self-examination turns up whatever may be in the way of true unconditional love. The lesson is to let jealousy be your teacher."

She will be presenting these teachings experientially as part of Tantra: The Yoga of Love, at Pura Vida Retreat Center near Atlanta, Georgia, March 16th - 18th. People interested in participating may read more and register by visiting: http://www.sacredspaceinstitute.com/calendar.html. (Space is limited so early registration is advisable).

"Compersion is a made up word which means the opposite of jealousy. Many people have told me this work has been a lifesaver! It's guaranteed to raise your consciousness and give you a new perspective. Good medicine!"

Deborah Anapol, Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology, is the author of Polyamory: The New Love Without Limits; The Seven Natural Laws of Love (http://www.sevenlawsoflove.com) and Compersion: Using Jealousy as a Path to Unconditional Love. She has been working with groups and individuals exploring conscious relating and sacred sexuality for over 20 years. She is a popular writer, seminar leader, and relationship coach. Her work has been featured on television & radio talk shows nationwide. Deborah's gentle wisdom and courageous heart have inspired many seekers on this path.

For Valentine's Day, Infidelity Expert Tells Suspicious Spouses: Hire a Private Eye

2007-01-27T02:41:00.000-08:00

(PRWEB) January 18, 2007 -- Valentine's Day is one of the few times infidelity expert Ruth Houston recommends hiring a private investigator to catch a cheating mate.

After all, Houston is the author of an infidelity book packed with hundreds of cheating signs that suspicious spouses and significant others can find on their own.

Catching a Cheater Without Help

Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs documents practically every known sign of infidelity, including the subtle signs people usually overlook. All of the signs can be found using nothing more than one's own eyes and ears, their personal knowledge of their mate, and the information in Houston's book.

Private Eyes Rarely Recommended

"Normally I don't advocate the use of private investigators to catch cheating mates," says Houston. "I've seen too many people spend hundreds -- even thousands of dollars on infidelity investigations, only to come up empty, with nothing to show for all the money they've spent."

The Exception - Valentine's Day

"But Valentine's Day is an exception. It's one of the few times I recommend using an investigator, because you can get maximum results for minimum expense.

Houston, the founder of www.InfidelityAdvice.com, explains that Valentine's Day is unique because cheaters everywhere are either buying or receiving Valentine's gifts.

Exposed by Valentine's Day Gifts

According to the National Retail Federation, Americans will spend at least $13 billion this year on Valentine's gifts. Houston says that a significant portion of that money will be spent by cheaters buying gifts for their secret lovers.

Houston says, "Any cheating husband or boyfriend who wants to stay in his lover's good graces, (and in her bed) has to buy her a gift. More than likely that gift will be delivered in person -- if not on Valentine's Day, then the day after or the day before.

The Best Time to Get Proof

Houston continues , "If you've been suspecting your spouse or significant other of infidelity for quite some time now, and have been unable to get proof, (because you haven'tread my book) then this is the time to make your move."

Keep Costs Down

"If you can afford to hire a private investigator to follow your mate," says Houston, " do it around Valentine's Day. You're almost certain to get the proof you need at a fraction of the usual cost. Since you only need the investigator's services for 1 to 3 days, you can avoid running up a big bill.

More Ways to Cut Costs

"You can further reduce your costs to a few hours time, if you can pinpoint the window of opportunity when your spouse or significant other is most likely to make contact with his or her lover. - lunch time, before work, after work, late at night when they think you're asleep. You probably already have a pretty good idea of when that might be."

Book Early

Houston suggests booking your time early, since Valentine's Day or Valentine's week is the busiest time of the year for private investigators who specialize in infidelity investigations.

If You Can't Afford a Private Eye

Those who can't afford to hire a reputable private investigator, or don't want to take the time to track one down, can request Houston's free tip sheet with detailed information on the 21 major categories of infidelity signs. E-mail InfidelityInfo @ gmail.com with "21 categories" in the subject line.

About Ruth Houston:

Infidelity expert Ruth Houston is the founder of Infidelity Advice.com and the author of Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs, which documents practically every known sign of infidelity. Frequently called on by the media to comment on infidelity issues in the news, Ruth has been quoted in the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, the Los Angeles Times, Newsday, the New York Post, the Toronto Sun, Cosmopolitan, the Chicago Tribune, the San Francisco Chronicle, MSN Lifestyle, iVillage, Reuters, UPI and numerous other print and online media. Ruth has been a guest on The Today Show, Good Day New York, Telemundo, BBC, CBC, CNN, 1010WINS, Sirius Satellite Radio, Ireland's Late Late Show, Court TV Radio and over 270 radio and TV talk shows in the United States, Canada, Europe, South America, New Zealand, Australia and the Caribbean. For a list of free infidelity tip sheets and special reports, visit www.InfidelityAdvice.com

To interview Ruth Houston, call 718 592-6039 or e-mail InfidelityExpert@gmail.com

How To Catch A Cheating Spouse With A Hidden Camera

2007-01-19T13:56:00.000-08:00

For a married individual, there is nothing worse than experiencing the feeling that eats away at you when you suspect that your better half is turning to another for attention. Whether you see the common signs, find clues or want to relieve the paranoia, there are ways to get to the bottom of this lingering mistrust without letting your partner know your intentions. One of the best and most discreet approaches to this matter is to enlist the help of a wireless camera. Catching a cheating spouse has never been easier.

Throughout the years, hidden cameras have caught countless cheating wives and husbands. Many users enjoy the freedom of being the only ones to catch their spouses in the act, eliminating the usual hiring of a private investigator. Hidden cameras are safe and do not entail a stranger following your loved one wherever he or she goes. They are also very easy to use and are only detected when your significant other uses a hidden camera detector, which is highly unlikely.

Since cheating spouses often get sloppy, the hidden camera is able to pick up on the secret rendezvous' that take place on the home front, the bedroom, the car and any other location you can think to place your extra set of wireless eyes. Today, wireless hidden cameras go beyond the "bugs" we see on television. Hidden cameras are now positioned in everyday working products that make spying on your loved one simple. The possibilities are endless as these wireless wonders are positioned in an unlimited supply of hiding places.

If you suspect your spouse is bringing his or her lover to your home, there are plenty of wireless cameras that fit into the household scene. Bedrooms can be outfitted with hidden camera lamps, alarm clocks, radios, cordless telephone and even air purifiers. There's even a functional 13-inch color television with hidden camera capabilities with receiver, receiver antenna, RCA cables and more. Bathroom wireless cameras include a canister of Ajax, Lysol wipes, Barbasol shaving cream or nail polish remover.

For some cheating spouses, they take time they share with their children and use it to their advantage. A walk in the park or a suspicious drive with mommy or daddy can now turn the tables on cheating spouses. Bike helmets for children, activity trucks, trains and other toys are available with built-in hidden cameras. Kids are known to carry their playthings along with them wherever they go. They are also a must if a spouse wishes to keep his or her child occupied while he or sh cheats. If you wish to reveal this sickening practice, purchase a wireless camera toy that allows you to see what your child sees but cannot articulate.

Versatile wireless cameras, such as wall switch plates, air fresheners, phone jacks and smoke detectors, may appear in any part of a home, office or apartment. The list goes on and on with the type of hidden camera magic that the Spy Shop offers the public. Hopefully, your suspicions are a false alarm and you may never have to confront your spouse after your hidden camera findings, but wouldn't you like to be sure?

About the Author
Yona Williams is a freelance writer, who enjoys traveling, art, animals, movies and training her lovable mutt, Oz. For more information on hidden cameras and other cool devices, check out http://www.thespyshop.ws/wirelesscameras.html.